The Relationship is Bad for You!

The Relationship Is Bad for You

Simply put, you’ve decided you don’t want contact with this person because it is bad for you! Your self-esteem is on the line and to heal you’ve got to stay away. It may take you awhile to decide you want to end the relationship. You may go back and forth trying to decide if it is in your best interests to stay or go. It’s a difficult decision and the amount of time it takes to decide will vary from person to person. When in a relationship with a narcissist or other abuser they want you to do what they want, when they want it. If it turns out that you actually want to do what they want on a regular basis, it becomes too much like sharing and they won’t want it anymore. In other words, you won’t reach a level of mutual sharing and understanding in the relationship. You might wonder why things don’t seem quite right. Sometimes you may get a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach and then shrug it off, rationalizing that you are too sensitive or didn’t understand what was said or done. Both men and women in these types of relationships report that even though they share some great times with their partner, they spend far more time feeling uneasy or downright miserable. Maybe you have experienced hesitation bringing up your feelings, fearing that doing so would anger your partner. Feeling fearful and hesitant shouldn’t be part of a healthy relationship.

Both partners in a relationship deserve a stable life with another person. Pay attention to your own wants and needs. If you are in a destructive relationship, breaking free will take you out of a dark place and present you with new circumstances where you can pick up the pieces of your life, take care of yourself, and focus on your healing.