Posts Tagged ‘wonderful relationships’

Say What You Think

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

In a new relationship it can be tough to be upfront with views and opinions if they’re different from that of a new person. The first thought might be to stay neutral. There’s no reason to come off as harsh in any way but don’t be afraid to say what you think either. I once met a man who was a serious motorcycle rider. He told me he didn’t ride much in the winter but spent a lot of time riding during the summer. He asked me what I thought about motorcycles. At the time I remember thinking–I could tell him I love them but that wouldn’t be entirely true. Instead I told him it depends on the rider because motorcycle safety is an issue for me.

I didn’t hear from him again. He most likely felt I wasn’t going to share his enthusiasm for bikes and riding was important to him.

Be honest with people and tell them what you think. It isn’t always pleasant but it doesn’t have to be awkward either. You’ll feel more confident when you tell people how you feel because you’re letting them know who you are. Being authentic is a wise thing to do. You won’t have the same interests as every potential partner you meet. Besides, having the exact same interests as a partner isn’t necessary; we’re all different! By being honest not only do you let people know who you are, you tell them what you like, and what you don’t which is a good idea.


Talk is Not Cheap in Relationships

Wednesday, December 14th, 2011

You’ve most likely heard the expression talk is cheap. It definitely doesn’t apply to relationships. If anything it’s a commodity. Without talk a relationship is destined to die.

Sometimes, especially in the beginning, talk is hard to come by. People feel their way as they create conversation in order to find common ground. Some conversations last just a few seconds, simple words, light and breezy. Others can be meatier and last hours.

Talk is good.  Not necessarily idle chatter but sincere communication heals our souls and keeps the brain active and stimulated.

Talking about common interests, activities, current events, ideas, travel, dreams, goals, and plans usually put people at ease. When it gets right down to it, all of our relationships are a series of conversations.

Great relationships don’t just happen–they’re created and one of the primary ingredients is talk. Talk is wonderful music to the ears. It has great value. It’s like physical exercise—the more you do the better you get and the more you look forward to it.

If you find it tough to involve another person in conversation, keep trying. As the conversation starts to flow,  you’ll become more comfortable and start looking forward to it. If you run across someone who seems turned off by a meaningful exchange take note of it. If you are dating and conversation comes hard a safe bet is to ask the other person about themselves–most people love to talk about their views activities hobbies etc. Guard against overwhelming your partner. Too much question and answer conversation for hours at a time is too much to deal with. Shorter meaningful conversations have a greater impact over time.

To keep a relationship going keep the lines of communication flowing.

A Wonderful Life

Saturday, January 1st, 2011

The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.      Allan K. Chalmers

Love in Your Heart

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.   –Oscar Wilde

Listen Humbly:

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to respond.

Jimmy Manyi, Tiger Brands, South Africa

Money & Relationships

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

The other night I asked my seventeen year old son who he would choose–a woman he loved who had no money or a woman he cared about who had a lot  of money.

He told me he needed more information. I asked him what information he needed but he said he wasn’t sure…

I guess even in terms of the heart it is possible that financial rewards weigh in pretty mightily. Maybe it’s because money or rather the lack of it makes life so much harder to live. Money is the primary means of exchange for goods and services. It’s a whole lot easier to say that money isn’t important when you’ve got lots of it. If you don’t have money the lack of it quickly becomes a primary life stressor because whether we like it or not, it continues to be a means for survival in our society.

I personally prescribe to the notion that money isn’t everything but I can’t deny its importance because if I did it would allow me to rationalize costly spending errors that create debt and too many of those would cause me to dig myself into a deep hole.

Another question: Would I rather choose to become involved with a person who had heavy debt or a person who had minimal debt? Does the heart look more kindly on those who have shown prudent financial judgment? Where do you stand? (more…)

Walls Around Us

Saturday, April 10th, 2010

The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy.

Jim Rohn

Relationships Are What Make the World Go Around

Thursday, February 11th, 2010

Valentines’ Day is around the corner and at this time, many people find themselves focusing on the relationships in their lives whether they are single, in a relationship or married. However, it’s important to remember that this could, and should, be done the other 364 days out of the year.

When it comes to relationships, Feng Shui’s basic principle that everything is connected energetically applies. Your thoughts, behavior and feelings are influenced by your surroundings. So, if you are single but are looking to be in a relationship, your surroundings should reflect that. It’s the basic law of attraction and it can be implemented in any relationship – even with family members and co-workers. To make your life reflect what you want, you should rid it of negative energy.

Mirroring your own behavior is a simple way to do this. Sometimes people don’t realize the amount of negativity they release so it’s always key to stay positive and act in a way that reflects what you want. Remember to use “I” statements to unblock communication issues in relationships. Using “I” will uncover what you want and what you feel. It’s important to be true to yourself and this technique can help you protect yourself from unhealthy relationships. It’s important to avoid relationships where you find yourself having to change who you are and having to watch what you say or do.  A healthy relationship is one where you can easily express your true feelings and relate with someone.

Another way to remove negative energy in relationships is through the use of a crystal. Crystals is a common cure for bad chi because it breaks up the negative energy and produces light.  Crystals can be hung in the north east corner of your living space, which defines the personal relationship area, to bring harmony in any of your relationships. Another way to bring harmony into your living quarters is to make sure your furniture in the living room and bedroom has soft, round edges rather than pointed ones. Also choose soothing colors and light candles to ensure the flow of energy throughout the house.

Also, take a look at your living space and see if there are items throughout that are from past relationships. Items like photos, clothing and other mementos can trap old, negative energy in your life. The stronger that energy is, the harder it will be for you to make connections with new people. If seeking a new connection is something you want, one way to make your life reflect that is to make room literally for someone new by allowing empty space in drawers and shelves.

Feng Shui problems can lead to arguments and miscommunication in any professional and personal relationship as well as make it harder to connect with people so keep these tips in mind next time you are conversing with a co-worker, family member or significant other.

About the author:

Yvonne Phillips is a National Feng Shui Practitioner, Author and Speakerwith over 18 years of experience. Yvonne is certified with Feng ShuiInstitute International and has trained with world famous Feng ShuiMaster Lillian Too. As owner of Creative Color & Design, she incorporates Feng Shui principles into both residences and businesses, from small businesses to large corporations. Please visit for more information.

Ten Ideas for Celebrating Valentine’s Day

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010

If you’re not sure what to do maybe the following will help. Whatever you do if you plan on celebrating, have fun and enjoy the day!

Valentine’s Day cards aren’t just for school kids. Make or buy your own and send to friends and family.

Send yourself a beautiful Valentine’s card. Go all out and get a great one then mail it to you!

Buy yourself some roses or a bouquet of your favorites.

Invite family and friends over for a special potluck or make a special meal for your loved one with their favorite foods.

Go out to a favorite spot with a special valentine or with a friend.

Schedule a massage or give a massage to your loved one.

Arrange for a manicure or pedicure or both for yourself and a friend.

Make some Valentine’s cookies to share with friends.

Go hot tubbing or rent an inflatable hot tub to use in your back yard.

Create a memory box for your loved one by writing your favorite memories on pieces of paper. They’ll have a great time reading them.

Valentine’s Day is for Everyone

Monday, February 8th, 2010

If you’re not currently in a romantic relationship you might feel this isn’t a holiday you want or for that matter have any interest in celebrating but you might want to rethink that.

Sure for many, Valentines’ Day is a day to express love to a special someone but it’s a special day regardless of  love relationship status as a day to express love toward family and friends. It’s a holiday to appreciate the people we have in our lives and let them know we care about them.

St. Valentine appreciated love and family and did what he could to help out fellow citizens living in Rome during the third century. Emperor Claudius II ruled at this time and had a big love of war. He wanted men to join his armies and fight in wars but they didn’t want to. They instead wanted to stay home with their families rather than sign up to fight. This made Claudius furious so he decided not to allow people to get married at all.

Since St. Valentine was a priest he spent a fair amount of his time marrying couples and continued to do so even after the law to ban marriage was passed. Many people supported what he was doing however he was eventually caught performing a marriage ceremony, thrown in jail, and sentenced to death.

One of his supporters was the daughter of a prison guard who befriended him and visited him while he was in jail. Before he died St. Valentine sent her a note thanking her for her visits. He signed the note “Love from your Valentine.”

St. Valentine died on February 14, 269 A.D. We celebrate love and friendship on this day. Some people might not know about St. Valentine but even if they don’t this holiday is celebrated by many in order to remember those they love.