Posts Tagged ‘wheels’

Change & Struggle

Friday, April 3rd, 2015

Change does not roll on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle.

And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless

your back is bent.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

No Contact


Thursday, September 12th, 2013

We live in a world of wheels that take us to and move us from.

They bring us back and leave behind.

They distance us and drive us away from.

We are very dependent on wheels.

Where would we be without them?


No Contact

Staying is Always an Option…So is Leaving

Thursday, May 24th, 2012

Below is a link to a story about domestic violence. A situation that didn’t have to happen.

Victims are aware of the danger they put themselves in or potentially put themselves in. They know if domestic violence has occurred one two or more  times it will likely occur again.

Staying is always an option. When a victim stays they know more or less what they will be faced with. They accept that the potential is always there for   severe emotional trauma, physical injury, or death. They choose to stay because they fear leaving more than they fear the potential for continued physical, mental, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse.

Leaving is also an option.

When a victim decides to leave they face the unknown.

They have to think about how they’re going to leave.

There will be fear–lots of it.

There will be lack of belief in their ability to make it happen but at some point if the decision is made to leave the wheels of motion must begin to roll.

Gathering information is a must.

Seeking out assistance from others is often needed.

Putting together a plan of action is mandatory. Checking it out with law enforcement, a counselor, clergyman or another trusted individual may be in order.

Sure it’s scary. Sure it’s doesn’t feel normal. Sure there is barely enough time and energy to make it through the day let alone—leave.

A better life, a brighter future, and a peaceful existence don’t just happen.

It takes a change.



Don’t Know What to Do? Take a Small Action

Monday, October 18th, 2010

One of life’s biggest challenges is not knowing what to do. Not knowing what to do is a decision to stay uncertain or in limbo. If you don’t know what to do about a certain situation, you must figure it out if it’s important to you to do so.

There are times when moving forward with a decision is squelched due to being concerned about the rightness or wrongness of a next step.

It doesn’t take long to determine if a next step is right or wrong. If it feels right you will naturally build from your previous step. If it feels wrong, you will pull back or re-route your decision and go in another direction.

How do you know the next step? You don’t know for sure but it is likely that you will come close to a good answer by seeking information.

Then, take a step by going with the hunch that feels accurate for you.

What is your alternative?

Not moving forward.

Say that you are in a  toxic relationship. You don’t know what to do. What is one thing you could do?

Something simple: look up toxic relationship and see if the definition feels like it applies to you.

Next, pay attention to the way your body feels.

Are you nervous, uncertain, confused, withdrawn, have a sinking feeling?

Pay attention to all these signals.

Then make a next decision.  Even if it is to journal about it–even just one sentence. That is still taking an action because you are committing words to paper.

That one small action will get the wheels turning and you will be able to take additional actions.

You may want to journal more, read more about destructive relationships, or speak to a counselor.

Major actions aren’t  necessary. Small ones work best especially when you are uncertain.