Posts Tagged ‘violence’

Can a Leopard Change its Spots?

Wednesday, January 14th, 2015

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Vagina Monologues–It’s Happening in Salem

Friday, April 4th, 2014

The Vagina Monologues is a play written in 1994 by Eve Ensler, playwright and activist. Ensler founded V-Day about four years after she wrote the play. V-Day is a nonprofit that demands violence against girls and women must end.


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When You Don’t Have Power

Sunday, January 26th, 2014

When you’re in a relationship where the distribution of power is lopsided, the person with little or no power becomes even more powerless by silencing their own voice.

You don’t intentionally stop talking. There is a freeze that happens. This freeze causes you to have great difficulty gathering your thoughts and speaking when in communication with a person whom you see as having more power than you. Remember–they have more power because you have turned your power over to them.

When trying to communicate  with a person who you have given your power to:

Take a breath and gather your thoughts.

Make eye contact.

Say what you need to say; keep it brief.

The more you speak up; the more confident you will become.

People who have the power are not typically good listeners. They will look down, walk away, do something else, but not usually interested in listening to anyone other than themselves.

Don’t chase after them to talk to them. Chasing is like begging–begging for time and attention.

As you speak up and reclaim your power you will decide if it is worth your time to communicate with this person.

You are responsible for your life and the direction it will take.

If you are not safe to have a conversation with the other person and reclaim your power please seek help.

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Ending Violence Against Women & Children

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

Domestic Violence Ends Tragically in San Diego

Tuesday, October 9th, 2012

Violence is the reason stated for one out of five divorces. If there is ever a time when it is better to be safe than sorry it would be when breaking off a relationship. If you are thinking of leaving a relationship proceed with caution.

Please read:

Every Nine Seconds

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2012

October is Domestic Violence Awareness month.  Domestic Violence continues to be the leading cause of injury to women–more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined.

Every nine seconds in the U.S., a woman is assaulted or beaten, according to Domestic Violence at

To join the fight domestic violence by donating funds or volunteering, visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Monday, October 1st, 2012

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Did you know that for one out of every four women in this country and 39% of all Native American Women the home is not a sanctuary-it is anything but safe. Please read the following:

How Healthy Is My Relationship?

Thursday, July 19th, 2012

Staying is Always an Option…So is Leaving

Thursday, May 24th, 2012

Below is a link to a story about domestic violence. A situation that didn’t have to happen.

Victims are aware of the danger they put themselves in or potentially put themselves in. They know if domestic violence has occurred one two or more  times it will likely occur again.

Staying is always an option. When a victim stays they know more or less what they will be faced with. They accept that the potential is always there for   severe emotional trauma, physical injury, or death. They choose to stay because they fear leaving more than they fear the potential for continued physical, mental, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse.

Leaving is also an option.

When a victim decides to leave they face the unknown.

They have to think about how they’re going to leave.

There will be fear–lots of it.

There will be lack of belief in their ability to make it happen but at some point if the decision is made to leave the wheels of motion must begin to roll.

Gathering information is a must.

Seeking out assistance from others is often needed.

Putting together a plan of action is mandatory. Checking it out with law enforcement, a counselor, clergyman or another trusted individual may be in order.

Sure it’s scary. Sure it’s doesn’t feel normal. Sure there is barely enough time and energy to make it through the day let alone—leave.

A better life, a brighter future, and a peaceful existence don’t just happen.

It takes a change.



Violence Suffered by Women

Friday, March 23rd, 2012