Posts Tagged ‘uncomfortable’

Uncomfortable

Tuesday, December 15th, 2015

The number one reason I was able to finally leave the destructive relationships I found myself in was that I forced myself to get used to uncomfortable.

The thing that keeps us in what isn’t good for us is that even though we know it’s not good, we’re familiar with it and know how to live in it.

It may not be good but getting up day after day and knowing what to expect even if it’s bad gives us a sense of normalcy that we crave.

One of the first big decisions I made when I left my marriage was to buy a new home.

Walking into the realtor’s office by myself felt very uncomfortable.

I felt like a fish out of water and completely alone.

It seemed so abnormal to make the big decision I was about to make.

I thought–I can’t do this and shouldn’t be here. I need  help!

But there I was and looking around I realized I was the only one there to make the decision and it had to be done;

so I did it.

I felt less uncomfortable as I walked out of that office.

I felt uncomfortable with more decisions I made in the coming weeks months and years but I got used to making decisions and as time went on realized that the only way to get comfortable was to continue to make decisions–small medium and big ones.

The result was that over time the uncomfortableness I’d felt early on became my new comfort zone.

I trusted the decisions I was making.

Other people saw the difference in me–the confidence that came through.

I would not have grown into the person I am today without forcing myself to get uncomfortable.

Next time you think–oh no, I can’t do this or this is way too big a decision for me to make–

think again.

Get used to it.

Accept it.

Own your decisions.

Your time is now.

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Willingness to be Uncomfortable

Tuesday, May 15th, 2012

Be willing to be uncomfortable. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. It may get tough, but it’s a small price to pay for living a dream.        Peter McWilliams

Risking–Is the Cost Too High?

Monday, December 13th, 2010

Getting what you want in life will cost you. There is always a cost associated with anything of value and to think otherwise is fantasy.

This past week I’ve had opportunity in my own life to face that risk = reward and that anything I do that could be considered a risk can either work out or can just as easily fail.

My risk has to do with an investment. It scares me to think about the possibility that maybe I shouldn’t have taken the risk but then again, hindsight is always twenty-twenty. I really have no reason to believe at this point that my investment was a poor one it’s just that right now I’m taking part in a lot of what if thinking.

There are many times in life when we’re faced with making a decision that is uncomfortable. We weigh the pros and cons and eventually make a judgment about the best course of action to take. Sometimes we move forward. Other times we pull back. The thing is, life puts these decisions in front of us and it’s up to us how we respond.

If we never take risks we will remain where we are and by and large staying where we are is safer than making the decision to go in a direction we’re not familiar with.

Creating new relationships, taking a new job, or making an investment are just a few of the ways we take risks. Once we’ve made the decision the one thing we can be assured of is that taking a chance will teach us something new about ourselves.

And that’s not a bad thing.

If we’re in the habit of paying attention to our instincts we’ll know if we are ready to plunge ahead or pull back. Pulling back by not risking doesn’t mean we’ll never move forward it just means that at this point in time it’s better to let the opportunity go—there will be another one.

So there’s a cost involved in anything, that’s a given. Whether or not you move forward is up to you.

Is the timing right?

Do you want to move forward?

Can you deal with the possibility that things might not turn out the way you planned?

Can you deal with failure?

How will you deal with success?

What parts of your life will change by taking this chance?

How hard or easy is it for you to bounce back?

Follow your instincts and pay attention to timing. You’ll know if moving forward is worth the risk.