Posts Tagged ‘trust’

Trust Yourself First

Sunday, July 9th, 2017

Trust yourself first.

This is often a big struggle if you have been harshly criticized throughout life for decisions you have made. It is definitely best to trust yourself even when you have had it ingrained to doubt yourself. Establishing trust in self takes courage and compassion so cut yourself some slack in your thinking about the decisions you make. Just writing this post has brought to light how much I struggle with this. I find that trusting me is a lot like using my body’s core when exercising. I have to think about it every single time because engaging those muscles doesn’t come naturally.

Engaging trust in self is similar. We’ve got to think about the decisions we’re making and trust that we know what we’re doing.

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship including the one you have with yourself. When you trust yourself it increases your confidence making it easier to make decisions and reduce your stress.

There are times especially after making a mistake or after someone criticizes you when it can feel like you can’t trust yourself to make any decision because you fear making the wrong one again. Yet the more decisions you make the more confidence you’ll have.

Here are some tips I found to help.

Be Yourself

If you fear what others think about you or that they will judge your decisions negatively you might think you should act like a different person. Other people will often sense this and some will take advantage of you if they can tell you don’t have a strong sense of self. Stick with you–you’re all you’ve got.

Set Attainable Goals

Goals are good. If however the goals are set too high we likely can’t reach them and give up early on. Small goals that inch us toward our main goal will keep us on a more realistic pace.

Be Kind to You

We know how to be kind to others but loving ourselves unconditionally is easier said than done. Keep a close eye on your inner voice. Does it tell you off regularly or is it kind? When you can love yourself unconditionally you can trust yourself unconditionally. Let your inner voice know you won’t do everything perfectly and that’s okay.

Spend Time with Yourself

If you distract yourself with busyness all day you will miss the opportunity to get to know yourself better. It doesn’t take much time to stop take some deep breaths and stay in the moment.

Believe in Yourself

Believe wholeheartedly in yourself even if there are days when it feels like you’re faking the belief.

 

 

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Second Guessing the Gut

Sunday, June 11th, 2017

Second guessing the gut is a dicey proposition.

Your instincts are all you really have to direct you toward making strong decisions that benefit you and keep you safe.

The conscious mind is not very good at helping us decide what is best for us where the subconscious mind goes deeper.

When we get the feeling that something just doesn’t add up–that’s our subconscious talking to us. A stab in the gut or a warm suffocating feeling in one part of the body is our inner being talking to us and we really have got to pay attention to that.

When you ignore the small voice inside you more often than not it will eventually start screaming at you. The sooner you start paying attention to it the sooner you’re inner self settles down and breathes a sigh of relief.

Your instincts tell you all you need to know you just need trust.No Contact

Trust What You Think

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016

There are times when we don’t think we are thinking clearly about a variety of things. This may be a result of not making enough choices early in life or because others have regularly questioned the choices we have made.

Our decision making process is unique to us and our situation. It doesn’t make our decision a bad one if another person or ten people wouldn’t make the same choice–it just means our decision is different from what someone else might choose based on multiple factors.

Trust your ability to know what is right for you. It takes practice faith and belief in yourself to do this especially when you’ve been put down and or ridiculed but to move to the life you seek you will need to pull yourself up and out of the mindset that you don’t know what you’re doing or can’t make good choices.

You can but it takes practice. Take it one decision at a time.

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Uncomfortable

Tuesday, December 15th, 2015

The number one reason I was able to finally leave the destructive relationships I found myself in was that I forced myself to get used to uncomfortable.

The thing that keeps us in what isn’t good for us is that even though we know it’s not good, we’re familiar with it and know how to live in it.

It may not be good but getting up day after day and knowing what to expect even if it’s bad gives us a sense of normalcy that we crave.

One of the first big decisions I made when I left my marriage was to buy a new home.

Walking into the realtor’s office by myself felt very uncomfortable.

I felt like a fish out of water and completely alone.

It seemed so abnormal to make the big decision I was about to make.

I thought–I can’t do this and shouldn’t be here. I need  help!

But there I was and looking around I realized I was the only one there to make the decision and it had to be done;

so I did it.

I felt less uncomfortable as I walked out of that office.

I felt uncomfortable with more decisions I made in the coming weeks months and years but I got used to making decisions and as time went on realized that the only way to get comfortable was to continue to make decisions–small medium and big ones.

The result was that over time the uncomfortableness I’d felt early on became my new comfort zone.

I trusted the decisions I was making.

Other people saw the difference in me–the confidence that came through.

I would not have grown into the person I am today without forcing myself to get uncomfortable.

Next time you think–oh no, I can’t do this or this is way too big a decision for me to make–

think again.

Get used to it.

Accept it.

Own your decisions.

Your time is now.

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Get Used to Uncomfortable

Saturday, February 14th, 2015

The number one reason I was able to finally leave the destructive relationships I found myself in was that I forced myself to get used to uncomfortable.

The thing that keeps us in what isn’t good for us is that even though we know it’s not good, we’re familiar with it and know how to live in it.

It may not be good but getting up day after day and knowing what to expect even if it’s bad gives us a sense of normalcy that we crave.

One of the first big decisions I made when I left my marriage was to buy a new home.

Walking into the realtor’s office by myself felt very uncomfortable.

I felt like a fish out of water and completely alone.

It seemed so abnormal to make the big decision I was about to make.

I thought–I can’t do this and shouldn’t be here. I need  help!

But there I was and looking around I realized I was the only one there to make the decision and it had to be done;

so I did it.

I felt less uncomfortable as I walked out of that office.

I felt uncomfortable with more decisions I made in the coming weeks months and years but I got used to making decisions and as time went on realized that the only way to get comfortable was to continue to make decisions–small medium and big ones.

The result was that over time the uncomfortableness I’d felt early on became my new comfort zone.

I trusted the decisions I was making.

Other people saw the difference in me–the confidence that came through.

I would not have grown into the person I am today without forcing myself to get uncomfortable.

Next time you think–oh no, I can’t do this or this is way too big a decision for me to make–

think again.

Get used to it.

Accept it.

Own your decisions.

Your time is now.

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Trust Your Own Instinct

Sunday, December 2nd, 2012

Trust your own instinct.  Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.      Billy Wilder

Trust Yourself

Thursday, May 31st, 2012

Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.    Benjamen Spock

Intuition

Friday, September 17th, 2010

Trusting our intuition often saves us from disaster.    Anne Wilson Schaef

Saturday, September 11th, 2010

When an emotional injury takes place, the body begins a process as natural as the healing of a physical wound. Let the process happen. Trust that nature will do the healing. Know the pain will pass, and, when it passes, You will be stronger, happier, more sensitive and aware.   Mel Colgrove