Posts Tagged ‘tripping’

Standing in a Sinkhole

Saturday, September 29th, 2018

No ContactIf you’re standing in a sinkhole sticking around long enough to be fully encapsulated shouldn’t be an option. Intimate partner relationships take work but if your voice is not heard how are you going to be heard? If you’re scared what will it take to feel safe?

When circumstances continue to spiral down you know it.

Do you feel there is hope that the situation can change?

Is there pushing, shoving, hitting, biting, tripping, slapping or any other form of physical abuse? Is a relationship partner ignoring disregarding or undermining or doesn’t want to spend time with you? Is there financial deprivation? If you feel your circumstances are situational what will it take to turn things around? If you’re situation hasn’t escalated to the point where there is physical violence do you fear it will get that way in the future?

Be honest with yourself. We usually know deep down when a relationship has potential and when it does not. Are you communicating with your partner letting them know how you feel? Do you feel safe enough to communicate with your partner?

Your first job is to take care of you. Once you crawl out of the sinkhole the pieces your life will begin to fall into place. This can only happen through honest communication with your partner and a willingness by both of you to create change. If that is not possible the other alternatives are to stay with the status quo or remove yourself from the relationship. If you know that communicating your needs isn’t safe you either keep silent and stay or find a way out.

To seek help contact the Domestic Abuse National Hotline:

1-800-799-7233

1-800-787-3224 TTY

The National Sexual Assault Hotline

1-800-656-4673

What Needs Done First?

Saturday, April 15th, 2017

What needs done first? I asked myself this question at 4:30 this morning–way too early to be thinking about it but apparently my mind didn’t think so.

Eventually I did go back to sleep but not until I figured out why this question was gnawing at me so early in the morning.

There are usually too many things that need to be done on a daily basis and it’s not always easy to figure out what should be done first.

So the question becomes: What needs done first? What has got to be done first thing; right now; yesterday?

Is there one thing that’s eating at you and deep down you know if you just go and get it done you’ll be relieved?

In my case, I knew there were about twenty things but couldn’t put my finger on which one needed to be done first

until I realized that I couldn’t put my finger on it because I kept tripping over it on the floor!

 

It was a pile of stuff–papers. For at least a couple of months it was always there every single day.

And every single day I kept staring at it thinking yep, got to do something about it, but not now.

Later; always later…

So at 4:30 this morning that pile flashed in front of me and lo and behold, I figured out my what’s on first and today I finally took care of it.

It’s gone.

Thankfully.

Now, I can move on to the second, third, fourth and the other things on that list of stuff that ‘s got to be done.

I’m relieved.

So what do you keep tripping over, running into, ignoring, the thing you know you’ve just got to do when you’ve got the time?

What needs done first for you?

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