Posts Tagged ‘time’

At the Last Minute

Sunday, June 25th, 2017

At the last minute is too late to do anything that you might have done with more time.

At the last minute take a deep breath and slow down.

It’s too late for major revisions and better to let go and know you’ve done what you were able to do with the time you allowed yourself.

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So Stop Waiting

Saturday, October 8th, 2016

So stop waiting until you finish school,
until you go back to school,
until you lose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds,
until you have kids,
until your kids leave the house,
until you start work,
until you retire,
until you get married,
until you get divorced,
until Friday night,
until Sunday morning,
until you get a new car or home,
until your car or home is paid off,
until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter,
until you are off welfare,
until the first or fifteenth,
until your song comes on,
until you’ve had a drink,
until you’ve sobered up,
until you die,
until you are born again
to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy…

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Bait & Switch

Wednesday, September 7th, 2016

Narcissists are masters at the bait and switch.

They will con you into thinking and believing anything they believe you want them to be and then once you’re hooked they switch.

You will never every get them back to form they presented themselves to be in the beginning.

They can also be enemies from hell.

You don’t need to react to what they do.

You do need to take care of yourself and have strong boundaries.

If you don’t react they get no narcissistic supply which is…your time, your attention, your reaction.

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Hard Work

Sunday, February 7th, 2016

Hard work will make you feel better.

The thoughts can be melancholy, the outlook bleak

but hard work will channel you in a productive manner

and bring results!

Never have too much time with nothing to do. When there is

too much idle time the mind dreams up things to think about that

are of little or no consequence in the grand scheme of things.

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Give Time to Yourself

Saturday, December 19th, 2015

No ContactPurposefully give time to yourself–by yourself. Our days are filled with noise. Noise creates stress that keeps our bodies in a constant state of alert. It is difficult to escape sound however you can make a point taking time out and getting away from it as best you can. Your mind needs the stillness and a break from television, radio, voices etc. Try a nature sounds cd.

The Last Minute

Sunday, June 28th, 2015

The last minute is too late to do anything that you might have done with more

time.

In that  last minute take a deep breath and slow down.

You will think better and give more to whatever it is that needs to be done.

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Distribution of Power In Relationships

Tuesday, November 18th, 2014

When you’re in a relationship where the distribution of power is lopsided, the person with little or no power becomes even more powerless by silencing their own voice. You don’t intentionally stop talking. There is a freeze that happens. You have trouble gathering your thoughts and speaking up when in communication with the person you see as having more power than you. Remember–they have more power only because you have turned your power over to them. When trying to communicate¬† with a person you have given your power to: take a breath and gather your thoughts; make eye contact; say what you need to say; keep it brief. The more you speak up; the more confident you will be. People who are power mongers are not typically good listeners. They’ll look down, walk away, do something else, but not usually interested in listening to anyone other than themselves. Don’t chase after them to have a conversation. Chasing is like begging–begging for time and attention. As you speak up and reclaim your power you will decide if it is worth your time to communicate with this person. You are responsible for your life and the direction it will take. If you are not safe to have a conversation with the other person and reclaim your power please seek help. http://www.thehotline.org/

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The Wilderness Experience

Tuesday, September 23rd, 2014

When we’re having a wilderness experience we are going through major upheaval. You know you’re still living but for one reason or another you feel like you’re out there going it on your own–kind of like in the wilderness.

Of course you already knew that life isn’t all sweetness and light. But there are times when things have definitely taken a turn and we know we’ll never be the same.

A loss of great magnitude such as with the death of a loved one a relationship breakup or a significant change in health can put us there. It can come for a variety¬† of reasons but whatever the circumstances, life is different and we’re having to feel our way around for while, maybe a long while.

The only way to get through it is to keep living through the aches and pain.

You don’t need to snap out of it.

Just because everyone else seems okay doesn’t mean you’re not.

You are okay; you’re just in the wilderness and at some point others will get there too.

Look around and take it all in.

Reflect and live deeply through the experience.

Treat yourself well.

Give yourself grace and give yourself time.

Pretty soon the wilderness will become more familiar and not so barren.

It will fill up with newness and life that wasn’t there before.

You will feel more alive and more in tune with who and where you are.

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10 minutes

Wednesday, August 13th, 2014

What can you do with 10 minutes when there is absolutely nothing else to do but wait…

Several weeks ago I had to pick up a prescription for my dog at a Walmart pharmacy. I was there at 1o minutes before the pharmacy opened.

I needed to get to work right after I picked up his medication so figured I’d better stay put in line so I’d be first once they opened.

I stood there waiting and realizing while I waited that I had 10 minutes to do nothing.

At first I thought, oh brother, 10 minutes with nothing to do but wait.

But then I thought, hmmm, 10 minutes with nothing to do but wait.

So I looked around at the displays within my viewing range–really looked and thought, this isn’t bad at all. It’s actually kind of nice to just stand in a line with absolutely nothing to do but look around.

It forced me to take notice of things I might not pay attention to otherwise and while I was noticing nothing in particular I did notice something in particular that I really needed–a magnifying 10x mirror. The one I’d had cracked on a rafting trip two months ago and I’d been carrying it around in my purse ever since. Lately I’d been thinking about replacing it but never remembered to whenever I was in a store.

Now my problem was solved. The mirror display was two steps from where I was standing so I snatched one up.

That 10 minute wait at the pharmacy turned out to be a gift. A time to stop for 10 minutes and pay attention. I didn’t need to do one other thing, or be anywhere else. All I needed to do was be still be present and take notice.

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Quiet Time

Sunday, February 16th, 2014

Our days are filled with noise making it a challenge to find time for peace and quiet. Noise creates stress that keeps our bodies in a constant state of alert. It is difficult to escape sound however you can make a point of taking time out and getting away from it as best you can. Your mind needs the stillness and a break from television, radio, voices etc.

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