Posts Tagged ‘system’

Purpose

Monday, January 1st, 2018

Living without purpose means living life without an anchor-without roots.

Our roots are planted from inside us and then branch out.

Being firmly rooted from the inside provides structure and awareness of self. Once we are firmly
rooted we will seek out others who are the same.

When we attempt to root our existence by attaching to another person for our security, solidness, and support before firmly attaching to self we become dependent on that other person for our survival.

We are responsible for us.

We develop our sense of self from within.

As children we depended on others for our survival.

As adults we are responsible for ourselves and our own survival.

Root your feet to the ground beneath you and establish your own root system.

You will know your purpose because you are solidly established from within.

Revictimization

Friday, October 8th, 2010

The following is a list of some of the ways “helping” systems, services, and providers re-victimize women who have experienced emotional, verbal, or physical violence.

  • We don’t believe her
  • We don’t recognize her strengths
  • We fail to realize her manipulative tendencies are survival skills.
  • We fail to realize her efforts to hide the violence are oftentimes her efforts to prevent his violence to her
  • We fail to realize her “dishonesty” to us can be an attempt to keep herself safer.
  • We question why she stayed in the relationship or returns to it.
  • We question her inconsistency and react to her not following through with goals, etc.
  • We fault her parenting
  • We “evaluate” her
  • We only like “good victims” and enlightened victims
  • We hold cultural biases: we are sexist, racist and homophobic
  • We take over her decisions for her life (more…)