Posts Tagged ‘stress’

What Needs Done First?

Saturday, April 15th, 2017

What needs done first? I asked myself this question at 4:30 this morning–way too early to be thinking about it but apparently my mind didn’t think so.

Eventually I did go back to sleep but not until I figured out why this question was gnawing at me so early in the morning.

There are usually too many things that need to be done on a daily basis and it’s not always easy to figure out what should be done first.

So the question becomes: What needs done first? What has got to be done first thing; right now; yesterday?

Is there one thing that’s eating at you and deep down you know if you just go and get it done you’ll be relieved?

In my case, I knew there were about twenty things but couldn’t put my finger on which one needed to be done first

until I realized that I couldn’t put my finger on it because I kept tripping over it on the floor!


It was a pile of stuff–papers. For at least a couple of months it was always there every single day.

And every single day I kept staring at it thinking yep, got to do something about it, but not now.

Later; always later…

So at 4:30 this morning that pile flashed in front of me and lo and behold, I figured out my what’s on first and today I finally took care of it.

It’s gone.


Now, I can move on to the second, third, fourth and the other things on that list of stuff that ‘s got to be done.

I’m relieved.

So what do you keep tripping over, running into, ignoring, the thing you know you’ve just got to do when you’ve got the time?

What needs done first for you?

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Know Where You Are Going

Wednesday, January 11th, 2017

You can’t know where you are going if you don’t know where you are.

I’m sure you’re saying….yeah, and tell me something I don’t know.

Seriously, people can be physically at a place in life and have no idea how or why they are there.

Sometimes we might feel that forces beyond our control place us in certain locations at certain times and to some extent that is true.

But to move forward we have to have an understanding of where we are in the present otherwise we will move forward impulsively instead of strategically.

Going on a whim and a prayer is risky.

Know where you want to go based on a plan.

It doesn’t matter what you’re doing now.

It doesn’t matter where you’ve been.

Your age doesn’t matter unless you are not well and/or have a disabling condition that forces you to look at your safety as it relates to your health.

Think through any major change you want to make because it will change your life and the results might not be what you thought they would be. If you plan ahead you will be better prepared.

Think about where you are now. Take inventory. Evaluate. Note the good and the bad and what you would like to see happen in your future.

There is no one who knows your circumstances as well as you do. Believe that and plan accordingly.

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Sunday, October 23rd, 2016

Rushing around is counterproductive.

If you find yourself frantically trying to meet a deadline or finish everything on your to do list figure that you are better off stopping rather than finishing.

You don’t have to finish immediately.

Outside of an emergency situation whatever you didn’t get done can get done later and by waiting you may even put yourself in a better mindset to continue on at a later time. Take a breather and calm down.

Rushing can cause you far more stress than it is worth.

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Saturday, May 28th, 2016

Have you ever been nervous to the point where you make yourself sick when it comes to thinking about the impressions you make on others? Maybe panic sets in when it comes to impressing a new boss, co-worker, friend, or relationship partner?

It’s pretty normal to be nervous in new situations like the above but don’t let panic set in and attempt to make quick changes because you feel the real you is less than remarkable. Maintain balance in your relationships with others. If you hear that voice in the back of your mind telling you that you can’t, you won’t, you’re not good enough, don’t even try; steady yourself and hold your head up high. Replace those thoughts with–I can, I will, I am good enough, I have every right to…

The battle with the negative voice is ongoing. We have to work to silence it by not giving it power. When we give that voice power we not only lose out on opportunity and relationships, we jeopardize our health and well being.

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Failure is Stepping Stone to Success

Sunday, November 1st, 2015

Failure is not our enemy, it is the stepping stone we must take to find success.

If you fall in the water after landing on failure get back up dripping wet and keep going.

Failure helps us find the next landing spot which might be more failure but it is likely that success is hidden just beneath the surface inside that failure.

How will you ever find that precious gem called success if you don’t look inside?

Don’t run away from failure.

Sit with it for awhile.

Face it.

Look it straight in the eye.

Success is in there right beneath the surface you’ve just got to stick around long enough to see it.

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Sunday, March 15th, 2015

If you find  yourself stretched in so many different directions that  complete overwhelm sets in one of two things can happen…

You stretch to the point where you snap

or you decide to lighten the load your carrying.

Step back.

Walk away.

Whatever you’re doing will get done.

Maybe not perfectly or as expediently as you would like

but done it will get and in better mental shape  you will be.


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Steps to take When Going Through Divorce

Sunday, August 24th, 2014

There are six traits that will keep the odds in your favor as you go through divorce. Please read:

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Too Hard? Can’t Take it Anymore?

Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

The past two months have been the hardest I’ve had since I left my past job  and went into business as a window treatment franchisee. Last week I said the words out loud that I’d hoped I would never feel the need to say–

This is way too hard; I can’t take it anymore!

The phones and doorbell were endlessly ringing, there were many customer consultations, there were employee issues, product issues, dog barking issues (in response to the ringing doorbell), family illness and I could feel my stress level climbing.

Before October I’d felt pretty good about the way I was handling things. There were times when it would get busy but I was able to maintain. Now things were different. It was busy, very busy and there were new challenges, new types of installations, interviewing, hiring, and it was all coming down at the same time.

I wasn’t getting personal stuff done like it needed to be. Relatively simple tasks like getting the mail and going to the store became big challenges. Walking the dog was either a block up the street or not at all.


Stress On the Brain

Saturday, September 21st, 2013

In the past I’ve written about relationship stress on the brain. Ongoing stress from any source causes overload on the brain. This link takes you to an article that focuses on brain stress topics:

How Your Brain Responds to Stress

Stress and Noise

Stress and Memory

Gender Responses to Stress

Impact of Stress Studies

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When There’s Too Much Fear

Sunday, September 1st, 2013

If you have too much fear in your life pack it up in a bag, go to the river, toss it in, and watch it float away.

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