Posts Tagged ‘strength’

Test the Water

Saturday, June 9th, 2018

When we don’t test the water we don’t know where we stand.

I was taught not to disrupt the flow and keep up the status quo.

That was poor advice but it was what I learned to do.

If we don’t test the water we don’t know just how much we can grow.

In all relationships we have a choice.

We can stay with what we know and basically tread water indefinitely.

Or we can present a challenge to self and partner. Raise the bar so to speak.

Ask for what you need and want. You are not asking for too much when you do this.
It is never too much to ask for what you want and to have your needs met–it is a sign of strength.

A true partnership is much stronger than we think. A partnership that goes untested is more fragile than one
that has faced multiple challenges.

A true valued partner provides opportunity for candid and quality conversations. They will tell you what you need
to hear, not what you want to hear. If you never get to the place where the water is tested chances are you will not meet growth
head on. And if you choose not to grow your going in the opposite direction.

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Find Peace Within

Sunday, January 22nd, 2017

There are times when life as we know it seems to crumble all around us. During these times we are searching, fearing, and not really knowing what the right thing to do truly is. Take a deep breath let it out and
Find peace within.

When you feel others don’t understand misunderstand or seem altogether indifferent toward you, remember the value you have and
Find peace within.

If you have a project you know needs to get done but you are too tired or too anxious or you know you don’t have it in you to give it what it needs right now don’t beat yourself up but instead take a break as it will still be around later and
Find peace within.

When you find yourself way too critical of the way you look, your intelligence, your abilities, or in some other way feel inadequate and don’t measure up, give yourself a long strong hug, accept the gifts you bring to the table and
Find peace within.

When you fear the worst will happen no matter what that worst is, avoid panic, seek counsel, take a deep breath, let it out, pull together all the strength you can muster and
Find peace within.

When you are not invited
When you are turned down
When you are left alone
When you are forgotten
Or when you are ignored
Remember that you have a powerful presence deep within yourself. There is great peace within you and you alone create it. No one can take that from you.

Take pride in you as you are special despite whatever circumstances you face and that surround you.

Remember the peace that lies within you.
Blessings to you.
Find peace within you.

It is the most precious gift you can give
to you.

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Lift the Silence!

Monday, October 7th, 2013

When we let others drown out our voice we are silenced.

When we let others command our attention to the point where we are moved to silence, we lose our voice.

When we give up our voice because we are afraid or it’s not worth the energy it would take to stand up and be heard, we lose our voice.

We might quietly decide that our words have less value than those of a partner who is quicker to speak and louder than we are.

Those who speak quicker and louder do so to keep you silent.

Keeping their mouths open assures that yours stays shut.

Your voice needs to be heard.

Your voice will increase in volume once you allow it to be heard.

If you have been conditioned to be silent you must find the inner strength to overcome this conditioning. Practice daily stating your opinion. Offer your opinion up when you feel it is safe to do so.

Write daily in a diary writing about  how you feel re: issues that come up for you. Get used to looking to yourself for answers instead of believing that you can’t trust your decisions.

Slowly, as you begin to believe in your own value others around you will take notice.

Post a notice to yourself  where you will see it every day–I AM SMART STRONG & COURAGEOUS. I HAVE VALUE & I BELIEVE IN ME.  Incorporate this into your personhood.

If you are feeling threatened bullied defeated and are giving up your voice for the sake of another please resist the urge to continue on in this manner.

If you need help please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

1 800 799 SAFE (7233)

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Catalyst For a New Direction

Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

Painful as it may be, a significant emotional event can be the catalyst for choosing a direction that serves us – and those around us – more effectively. Look for the learning.  Louisa May Alcott

From a Place of Strength

Wednesday, May 16th, 2012

When you come from a place of strength you can get through situations that make you nervous or anxious.  Think about how strong and capable you are when you go some place new like a meeting, class, new job, church, or event where  you know no one. Center yourself in that place of strength. It will calm you down and keep you from running out the door.