Posts Tagged ‘small steps’

Following My Dream Part Three

Wednesday, November 20th, 2013

Note: Today is the third of a three part post written by Shannon, a life long friend of mine. Her story is one I thought you would want to read about and be inspired by.

We all have dreams and want to follow those dreams wherever they take us but making changes in our lives can be tough especially when getting through daily life can often be a big challenge. I asked Shannon to share her story  so in this three part blog post she talks about her dream and how she went about achieving it.

Following My Dream Part Three

By Shannon H

How I Ended Up Living in Saudi Arabia

Almost all of my students were from Saudi Arabia, a country I knew nothing about and had never had any interest in. I knew that I needed to start job hunting but felt paralyzed. Not only had I never met anyone who had dropped their life and picked up to move over seas but doing it in their mid-fifties? My students all encouraged me to apply in Saudi Arabia but most of the jobs required 2 years of experience which I did not have. I decided to try Turkey, as I had made a good friend at the school who was from there, but after not having much luck I decided one day just to apply for jobs in Saudi Arabia because you just never know… Fifteen minutes after I made my call the phone rang. It was someone calling from Saudi about my resume.

I was hired the next day. My son was willing to move into my house to take care of it and everything else fell into place. Sure there were plenty of naysayers and people who worried and others who thought I was crazy. Luckily my family was supportive of me as my mother and daughter were both travelers and my son had recently moved to Uganda for a job. The others I just did not listen to. I was also fortunate to have had a long term best friend who was beginning a new journey of her own and together we forged ahead sharing our worries fears and dreams. (Thank you Penny)

I am now starting my third year teaching at the top University in Saudi Arabia and one of the top Universities in the Gulf and Middle East.  I have been to Uganda 3 times to visit my son, his new Ugandan wife and their baby. I have been to Bahrain and Istanbul as well as all over Saudi Arabia.

I find that it is not easy living in a different culture and I certainly have gotten frustrated and had my down days but I love experiencing the experience! I love living my dream and although my kids miss me (I see them in the summers)they have told me that they are proud of me for not letting fear stop me from following my dream and for taking on this new adventure while most other people my age are falling into complacency (to quote my daughter)

So if you’re reading this and you have a dream you’d like to pursue here are some things that kept me moving toward mine:

1.     Keep dreaming

2.     Start with taking small steps

3.     Be open to opportunities

4.     Don’t let fear stop you

5.     Find people who are supportive

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Celebrate Small Steps

Thursday, February 7th, 2013

Celebrate and focus on the small steps you take each day as you move forward. Minimize the setbacks.

Small Steps/Big Impact in New Relationships with Ourselves

Monday, January 30th, 2012

It took awhile to make changes that would help move me toward a better life. I kept thinking I would need to take big leaps but wasn’t comfortable with sweeping change so consequently waited longer than I really needed to. Eventually I realized that being patient works best and that small steps usually have the most impact.

There was a time years back when I knew I definitely wanted to take a step forward. In fact I knew I absolutely had to if I valued my life. I found out about a domestic violence support group which met in my local area on Thursday evenings. I thought about going to one of those meetings for months.

I kept trying to build up courage to go to a meeting and then would change my mind. I rationalized staying home by convincing myself it was more work to go than it was worth and that I wouldn’t gain much anyway. I weighed the pros and cons for months. Finally I told myself—you’re going to the next meeting no matter what! (more…)

Money & Relationships Little Margin for Error

Saturday, January 14th, 2012

There are two areas in life where there is little margin for error.

One area is finances.  Making big purchases, losing a job, starting a business, choosing the wrong job, quitting a job, betting on the wrong horse, choosing an investment where the cost is high and the return is low–there are many decisions that need to be made.

The other has to do with partner choice. You can have all the money in the world but if your significant relationship isn’t right it doesn’t matter how much money you have.

We take risks finding our way to money and fulfilling relationships. Great things often happen when you follow your vision. Your unique string of small steps leading you to where you want to go is your road map. You’re not likely to stumble at the gate if you’ve laid the ground work first. Not all risks  you take will bring  immediate success either financially or in relationships but if you stay the course chances are good you will live your life closer to the vision you’ve created.

To Win You’ve Got to Overcome Fear

Friday, November 4th, 2011

In order to win you’ve got to overcome fear. The thought of spending the rest of your life being too afraid of overcoming your fear in order to win should scare you.

Small steps count when it comes to overcoming fear. Small steps are necessary in order to figure out what bigger steps you will eventually need to take. There is no time like now to get started.

When One Door Closes Find Another Door

Monday, April 11th, 2011

Doors do close.

Sometimes we take action to close them ourselves, other times we’re forced out as the door slams shut.

When the decision isn’t ours, we’re  shocked, outraged, or bewildered.

We’re likely confused and may feel numb.

It can be gut wrenching.

If you’ve experienced the loss of an opportunity, a job, a friendship, or a relationship ends, you know the feeling.

What do you do about it?

No matter what your loss, process it. We’ve got to own our losses. That doesn’t mean you obsess over and devote 24/7 thinking about it or every conversation you have addresses it.

But in order to move on you’ve got to spend some time examining the loss because if you don’t you face a repeat.

Who wants to repeat a nightmare? Who wants to go back in time and learn the same lesson over and over and over again?

So process your loss, breathe it in; breathe it out. Take small steps away from that shut door. Write, read, talk, listen, think, let it all gel. Be very very nice to you. That means don’t skip meals, get rest, smile, spend time with people who love you.

And then when the timing feels right, turn around as you back away from the closed door and look for a new one.

You may try a few that don’t feel right and you decide not to stay. That’s a good thing because you’re being selective. Finding doors is not as difficult as figuring out which ones you want to walk through and stay awhile.

Be patient.

Give yourself time.

If one door doesn’t feel right try another one. Stay positive and be good to you.

Action

Tuesday, June 1st, 2010

The way to get started is to stop talking and start doing. — Walt Disney