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Standing in a Sinkhole

Saturday, September 29th, 2018

No ContactIf you’re standing in a sinkhole sticking around long enough to be fully encapsulated shouldn’t be an option. Intimate partner relationships take work but if your voice is not heard how are you going to be heard? If you’re scared what will it take to feel safe?

When circumstances continue to spiral down you know it.

Do you feel there is hope that the situation can change?

Is there pushing, shoving, hitting, biting, tripping, slapping or any other form of physical abuse? Is a relationship partner ignoring disregarding or undermining or doesn’t want to spend time with you? Is there financial deprivation? If you feel your circumstances are situational what will it take to turn things around? If you’re situation hasn’t escalated to the point where there is physical violence do you fear it will get that way in the future?

Be honest with yourself. We usually know deep down when a relationship has potential and when it does not. Are you communicating with your partner letting them know how you feel? Do you feel safe enough to communicate with your partner?

Your first job is to take care of you. Once you crawl out of the sinkhole the pieces your life will begin to fall into place. This can only happen through honest communication with your partner and a willingness by both of you to create change. If that is not possible the other alternatives are to stay with the status quo or remove yourself from the relationship. If you know that communicating your needs isn’t safe you either keep silent and stay or find a way out.

To seek help contact the Domestic Abuse National Hotline:

1-800-799-7233

1-800-787-3224 TTY

The National Sexual Assault Hotline

1-800-656-4673