Posts Tagged ‘self belief’

We Are Righter than We Think

Tuesday, August 21st, 2018

We all spend so much time second guessing ourselves even when there is no real good reason to do so. It would be beneficial to us to understand that we are really and truly righter than we think.

We think we don’t know as much as we wish we did but in fact know more than we ever thought we could.

We think other people have things all figured out when they know absolutely no more than we do about the best way to live.

It’s always easier to look at someone else’s experience and instinctively know what they should be doing but when it comes right down to it if we were in their shoes would we really make a better choice?

No we would not because we are not them and have absolutely no idea what it is like to be them!

Life is a series of conversations decisions and actions.

We can have a conversation make a decision and take an action that may prove not to be in our best interests and based on that one decision decide that we are not good at knowing what is best for us.

That logic is unfair to us.

Each decision we make is a step forward in life.

The decision may cause us to go backward but if it does in the long run it will help us move forward because of the knowledge and wisdom we will gain from having relived something a second or third time.

The trick is to be aware of the road we are traveling on.

To be aware that we’ve been down this road before and examine why we find ourselves back there again.

Awareness is powerful. The more aware we are the more likely we will lean toward a different decision than we have made in the past.

If we blindly end up at the same crossroads yet don’t see that we are there we have a much bigger problem.

Awareness is key.

Reflection is paramount but not so much reflection that we decide we can’t trust ourselves to move forward.

Just enough reflection and then onward and forward. If your gut thinks the journey you are about to embark on is ill advised it will let you know. Again–awareness is key.

Zero into your awareness.

You are righter than you think.

You’ve got yourself to where you are right now, don’t underestimate your ability to move yourself in a direction that will serve you.

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Self-Belief in New Relationships

Wednesday, July 11th, 2012

Half the battle when developing great relationships is taking enough time to develop a strong relationship with yourself first. Do you have self-belief?

Are you growing yourself as an individual? Do you believe in your ability to be successful? Do you believe in your ability to make good decisions? Do you trust your instincts?

If you don’t believe in yourself how will you maintain strong relationships with others?

It is relatively easy to say “I believe in myself.” It is harder to live life each day with self-belief. It is difficult to stand by an opinion when others disagree but if you sincerely believe in your opinion why go along with others if in reality you don’t agree with what they say?

Solid relationships develop over time. Starting out a new relationship without self-belief makes you vulnerable to accepting and believing that your partner’s likes wants needs and opinions  are exactly like your own even when they’re not. Say your new friend loves red meat and eats it regularly. You on the other hand don’t care for it and rarely eat it. Are you more likely to say you love red meat even if you don’t or admit that you don’t care much for it? Say he loves science fiction movies and has a collection he watches over and over again. You on the hand love comedies and only occasionally watch anything else. Do you hide that difference or bring it out in the open?

Owning up to who you are won’t make or break a viable relationship. Standing by your true self and believing in your abilities will enhance your relationships with others. Sure, we want to respect individual differences in others but not to the point where we disregard our own. Who we are and what we think separates us from the pack.

Start

Sunday, October 17th, 2010

Start with what you have from where you are.  Don’t jump ahead or look over your shoulder.

The Value of Self-Belief

Sunday, August 22nd, 2010

The value of self belief is that once you have it you spend time thinking about what you want to do rather than worrying about what other people will think of you for doing whatever it is your considering.

Stupidity

Sunday, June 27th, 2010

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are so confident while the intelligent are full of doubt.

— Bertrand Russell

A stupid person should keep silent. But if he knew this, he would not be a stupid person.

—  Muslih-ud-Din Saadi

Thursday, June 10th, 2010

We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.

E. M. Forester

Saturday, June 5th, 2010

Not all those who wander are lost.    J.R.R. Tolkien

Keep Going

Monday, May 31st, 2010

Once you’ve made the decision to go forward–keep going. If you hit a brick wall climb over it or go around it.

Believe in Yourself

Wednesday, May 26th, 2010

No matter what the odds are, if you believe in your heart that you can accomplish something, you can do it. — Jenny Craig

New Starts

Monday, May 24th, 2010

Sometimes people don’t want to try something new because they think they it will take too long to become proficient at the task. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to figure things out; it matters that you start.