Posts Tagged ‘safe’

Standing in a Sinkhole

Saturday, September 29th, 2018

No ContactIf you’re standing in a sinkhole sticking around long enough to be fully encapsulated shouldn’t be an option.

When circumstances continue to spiral down you know it.

The only reason for sticking around is feeling that there is hope.

The problem is, do you really want to be hopeful in a sinkhole situation?

Is there pushing, shoving, hitting, biting, tripping, slapping or any other form of physical abuse? Is a relationship partner ignoring disregarding or undermining or doesn’t want to spend time with you? If you feel your circumstances are situational how much time do you think it will take to turn things around?

Be honest with yourself. We usually know deep down when a relationship has potential and when it does not. Are you communicating with your partner letting them know how you feel? Do you feel safe enough to communicate with your partner?

Your first job is to take care of you. Once you crawl out of the sinkhole the pieces your life will begin to fall into place. This can only happen through honest communication with your partner and a willingness by both of you to create change. If that is not possible removing yourself from the relationship is the alternative. You know if communication is unsafe.

To seek help contact the Domestic Abuse National Hotline:

1-800-799-7233

1-800-787-3224 TTY

The National Sexual Assault Hotline

1-800-656-4673

The Barnyard

Wednesday, February 21st, 2018

No ContactThe barnyard is the gathering place for livestock. Farmers don’t let wolves coyotes and other predators in the barnyard. They want to keep their livestock safe from harm.

So, if farmers don’t let wolves coyotes and other predators in the barnyard why would you let them in your space and roll around with them in your life?

Your boundaries will prevent these people from entering your life. Set your boundaries and keep them.

With the Intention of Being Real

Monday, January 15th, 2018

Being real.

Seems easy enough and I think we believe we actually are being real most of the time.

Yet when it comes right down to it and you have the opportunity to say what you really mean when it goes completely against what someone else believes will you play it nice and go along with what they say?

OR

Will you tell them what you really think?

When you sincerely agree, you agree and it is absolutely and positively no problem but when you don’t yet you say that you do

you are not being real.

Going against yourself hurts no one but you and the more you do it the more you will continue to do it.

It is far more honest and in honor of yourself to go into conversation with the intention of being real.

Being real doesn’t mean being mean hurtful or acting rude or uncaring.

Being real simply means that you let other people know what you think and who you are.

They may disagree with you.

Them may be critical of you.

They may choose to walk away from you

However, you live from the inside out.

Not the other way around.

Who you are, what you stand for, what you say, and what you think are part of you.

You misrepresent yourself if you don’t stand up for all that you believe.

If you fear telling another what you think, who you are, what you believe, you must face the fact that you have this fear and act accordingly which may mean disengaging with this other person altogether.

If you fear telling another person what you think, who you are, and what you believe because you fear for your life you must act accordingly and do what is necessary to keep yourself safe.

If you are not safe please call:

1-800-799-7233

TTY 1-800-787-3224

No Contact

Deep Water

Sunday, June 4th, 2017

Jumping into deep water when you’re fairly uncertain is not the best course of action to take but…

if you’re in the wading pool too long you run the risk of never getting out.

Head for the area where you can look over your shoulder and see the wading pool but not so far away that you’re unprepared and leave yourself open to drowning in the deepest part.

As you gain momentum and experience you will be able to navigate through to deeper water.

No Contact

 

Safe Zone

Sunday, December 1st, 2013

There is no safe zone in life–no place we can go where we are guaranteed safety and success. This place doesn’t exist. The only safe zone is the one we create for ourselves. Anything else is just an illusion.

 

Domestic Violence Ends Tragically in San Diego

Tuesday, October 9th, 2012

Violence is the reason stated for one out of five divorces. If there is ever a time when it is better to be safe than sorry it would be when breaking off a relationship. If you are thinking of leaving a relationship proceed with caution.

Please read: http://bit.ly/OiKD27

Bring on the Sunshine

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

Speaking well of others brings you sunshine. Speaking ill of others produces a dark cloud aboveĀ  you wherever you go.