Just because he/she wants it their way doesn’t mean that’s the way it has to be.
Just because they think you should doesn’t mean you must. 
Just because they think you’re wrong
doesn’t mean they’re right.
Put stock in what you think.
Listen to that voice in your head.
It’s your best bet.
Have you ever been nervous to the point where you make yourself sick when it comes to thinking about the impressions you make on others? Maybe panic sets in when it comes to impressing a new boss, co-worker, friend, or relationship partner?
It’s pretty normal to be nervous in new situations like the above but don’t let panic set in and attempt to make quick changes because you feel the real you is less than remarkable. Maintain balance in your relationships with others. If you hear that voice in the back of your mind telling you that you can’t, you won’t, you’re not good enough, don’t even try; steady yourself and hold your head up high. Replace those thoughts with–I can, I will, I am good enough, I have every right to…
The battle with the negative voice is ongoing. We have to work to silence it by not giving it power. When we give that voice power we not only lose out on opportunity and relationships, we jeopardize our health and well being.
You may not immediately recognize a green light.
Mostly because you aren’t ready to move forward.
The green light might be flashing in front of you for days months or even years
and it’s only because of the right timing and circumstances that you see
what has been there for quite some time.
That’s the beauty of a green light–it patiently gives you the go ahead
to proceed when you’re ready.
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.”
— Galway Kinnell
Do what you know is right & important, it is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, & personal satisfaction. -Margaret Thatcher
Patience and timing are the best of friends. Patience always waits until timing is ready.
Years ago I started a new business venture and in those early days there were questions I needed to ask but didn’t know enough to even know what questions I should’ve been asking.
I was in learning mode and in that mode information was coming at me left and right. The challenge was to survive the attack, regroup, and ultimately digest enough to understand some of it.
When starting a new business, job, relationship, or pretty much anything new there is always a learning curve. Early on we retain bits and pieces of what we need to know but don’t fully grasp the big picture. We want to feel like we can step into any situation, make a quick assessment and then “just know” exactly how to react or respond.
It would be nice if life worked like that but it doesn’t. We can’t just know what to do. It takes exposure practice and time in order to meet with enough experiences within the new situation to understand what is needed. The primary means to get the information we need is to ask questions, lots of them.
By asking questions, getting answers, and asking more questions we eventually get to a point where we can fill in the blanks as they come up. Details begin to surface and those details often lead us to the RIGHT questions.
If you’re standing at the edge of a cliff and your friend tells you to jump you’re not going to do so unless you’re certain you’ll survive.
Real life situations are usually not black and white but rather shades of gray. The questions we don’t ask can cost us; the questions we do ask can save us.
If you don’t understand everything you need to know in a new situation maintain a steady demeanor. Ask questions even those you might think are ridiculous or not worth asking–those are the very questions you should ask.
No matter where you are or what you’re dealing with in your life right now I’d be willing to bet you’ve got questions–questions that are lingering right beneath the surface–you may not even be aware a question exists but it’s there.
Don’t keep questions to yourself. If in the instant you think of a question pertaining to a particular situation but can’t ask it in the moment write it down. Add to a list of questions as they come to mind.
If you’re in a new work situation and you don’t feel comfortable asking a question of an immediate supervisor ask a lead worker, assistant, or knowledgeable co-worker. If you don’t think the questions you have are leading to the right information just keep asking. Those early questions will lead to others as you gain more knowledge.
If in a new relationship and things don’t add up or something is bothering you but you can’t put your finger on it ask questions. As you get to know the person better and feel more comfortable with asking questions those questions will lead to others that give you more clarity. Aim for easy conversation in your question asking, not interrogation. If you’re not comfortable enough to ask questions decide if the relationship is the best one for you.
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