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FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real

Wednesday, January 3rd, 2018

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When we fear something we believe with all our might that our fear is real.

We absolutely and positively believe that our fear is stopping us from doing stupid, ridiculous, and even dangerous things.

And sometimes it is true that we can have fear about things that we are wise to be fearful of but many things we are scared of are not really things we should be afraid of.

So what is it about fear that puts this stranglehold on us?

We fear that something terrible is going to happen to us if we do this one thing.

For me, making customer service calls to my past customers, is something I dread.

I believe that by calling my past customers and asking them how they like the window treatments I sold them that they will call me names, swear at me, or hang up.

I also think that when I ask these same customers if they have received compliments in regards to the window treatments I sold them that they will accuse me of trying to get referrals from them and refuse to give them to me.

And if they did accuse me of trying to get referrals from them the truth is I do want to encourage them to help me speak to other who people I may be able to help because I love what I do and I sincerely believe I can help their friends and family.

And even if my past customers call me names, swear at me or hang up on me, I will survive. None of those things will cause me bodily harm or injure me in any way.

And there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with me calling my past customers, asking them how they are doing, how the window treatments are working, and if they have received compliments.

Yet I believe what I am doing by calling my customers is somehow wrong or bad and I will come up with any excuse to avoid making those calls.

I would go so far as to say that I could see me losing my business just because I am afraid of making those calls.

So I’ve decided that in order to prove to myself that I can get past my blocks and make the dreaded calls to my past customers I am going to aim to make 50 calls by the end of this month. If I make 5 calls a day it is totally doable for me to make 50 calls in 10 days. So I will update you at the end of this month.

What do you fear? What is your block? Is it a real genuine fear or is it False Evidence Appearing Real?

Alone for the Holidays

Sunday, December 20th, 2015

Alone for the holidays is doable and in some cases a good alternative.Going through a divorce, kids with the ex, no family around, put a positive spin on this opportunity to take care of yourself.

The biggest battle we face this time of year is with the media.
Newspapers, radio, tv, internet…the holidays are pretty hard to miss.

The media works to convince us that alone is downright ridiculous during the holidays and is in no way a desirable alternative.

But that’s not true.

If your situation is one in which it is likely that you will spend time alone you can wallow in pity or pull yourself up by your bootstraps and enjoy the time you have to yourself.

It’s a matter of perspective.

If you’re a TV watcher and don’t want to stop watching, turn down the sound when the Hallmark moments come on.

Those commercials can pluck away at your heartstrings and cause you to feel miserable. Turn them off or silence them.

A great alternative is Netflix or dvd’s.

If possible go out and see the lights. You might think this is counterproductive but it’s actually fun and gets you up and doing something. But if it’s not your cup of tea…

Make a meal, a good one but maybe not the Christmas type. Use your imagination.

Take a trip, nearby or distant.

Take a luxurious bubble bath.

Give yourself a manicure.

Watch non holiday movies or holiday movies that are hilarious such as Christmas Vacation.

I’ve spent holidays alone and made a point of planning ahead as to how I was going to treat myself and looked forward to it.

We have the power to make or break each day we’re given no matter when it is. This time of year is no exception. No Contact