Posts Tagged ‘respect’

Comfort with Respect

Sunday, April 26th, 2015

Sometimes there are poor behaviors in relationships that damage an otherwise workable partnership. Maybe couples get too comfortable and consequently say things to their partners they wouldn’t dream of saying to anyone else.

It’s great to feel that kind of comfort with another person as long as you treat each other with respect whether you’re having the first or thousandth conversation.

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Your Heart-Your Most Valuable Asset

Sunday, November 23rd, 2014

Your heart is your most valuable asset.

Treat it as such.

Be careful when giving it to others.

Don’t let anyone trample it.

Pay attention to the nudges your heart gives you–

and protect it when you know you’re getting

a nudge…

Show your heart some respect!

When it is in pain from being wounded by another

please don’t pretend that’s okay.

You need to give your heart time to heal.

After all it isn’t made of stone.

It beats 70 times a minute in your chest and when

it is tired or wounded it needs to rest.

Your heart is there for you, 24/7.

Take care of it so it can take care of you.

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Don’t Give Away Your Power

Friday, September 19th, 2014

Do you give away your power?

You can teach someone to respect you but not by handing your power over to them.

Weakness doesn’t equal respect.

Fear of saying NO doesn’t equal respect.

Stand your ground no matter what the situation.

This keeps you safe and calm.

When you are calm you will earn the respect you deserve from yourself and others.

Don’t give away your power to anyone.

Don’t hand your power over to another person.

Expect respect.

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On Being Misjudged

Friday, August 8th, 2014

You will never please everyone all the time.

You will find that there are people who will misjudge you.

You will find that there are people who will misinterpret things you say and do.

You will find that there are people who speak ill of you to others.

There is not one thing you can do to change the mind of an individual who has misjudged you and refuses to speak to you.

Hold your head up and keep going.

Treat yourself with respect.

Treat others with respect.

Those who have misjudged you will either come around or they won’t. What they do or don’t do is their business, tend to your own business.

Live your life with dignity and grace and above all else do not allow yourself to be pushed around by others.

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Stand Up for Family

Saturday, March 29th, 2014

If someone you’re close to namely a parent or other relative is in the habit of making negative remarks about you or your children be as objective as you can about whatever they say but stand up for yourself and your family.

Sometimes well meaning or maybe not so well meaning remarks are made.

A grandparent might say “Jimmy is ungrateful, he doesn’t even care that I’m here. He just ignores me.”

No ContactJimmy  may really love having grandma come over to visit but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s sitting next to grandma hanging onto her every word. Sometimes grandma feels slighted when there is really no reason to.

Respect for elders is important but so is respect for children young adults and the middle aged.

If you’re doing all you can to see that your children treat others with respect and you do so yourself don’t let others push you or your children around. When in the presence of difficult relatives stay calm while holding your ground.

Here’s more information you may find helpful:

Likelihood of Treating Others with Respect

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.

Nathaniel Branden

Best & Worst Countries for Women

Friday, June 15th, 2012

Navigating New Relationships Can be Tricky

Sunday, August 8th, 2010

Relationships are tricky especially early on when you may be dating more than one person. It’s sometimes hard to know proper protocol when dating and introducing a new friend to others.

The worst thing anyone can do is show a lack of respect for the person they’re dating even though there are times when any disrespect shown is really unintentional.

Say for instance you are on an outing with a dating partner and you run into an acquaintance you haven’t seen for awhile.

This acquaintance says, “Hey, is this your girlfriend?”

You want to acknowledge that yes this is someone you’re dating but don’t want to send a message you’re not ready to deliver.

Don’t say: “Yeah, one of them.” You may think, of course I wouldn’t say that, but believe me, it happens.

Instead you could simply say this is Mary and leave it at that.

Another issue is becoming too comfortable early on in a relationship and taking your partner for granted. If a relationship is new enjoy the newness and keep it interesting. No one wants to me treated as if they are unwanted or unappreciated. No one wants to be treated like baggage. Remember your good fortune in finding such a great person. Relationships that thrive stay alive!

You’ll make mistakes–it comes with the territory. Just do your best to consider the other person and how you would want to be treated.

Love and Kindness

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.   – Barbara De Angelis

More than a Haircut…

Sunday, June 20th, 2010

After work this past Friday I just knew I wouldn’t be going home until I got a haircut. I couldn’t stand it any more!! I was way past overdue and didn’t want to go home without one. Determined,  I set out to complete this task. I thought that perhaps Friday after 5 might not be the best time but figured it most likely wasn’t the worst either so stopped in at a local cut and go salon.

I walked in, put my name on the list, and was told my wait would be about 10 minutes. As I scanned the salon, there appeared to be three stylists working with other customers so I thanked her, sat down, relaxed, and opened a National Enquirer which I figured would be fun to read while I waited…

I don’t know if it was because I was so thoroughly engrossed in my reading or just brain dead after a long week but by the time I looked up at the clock it was pretty surprising to see that my 10 minute wait had turned into 30. I looked around and could see that the three stylists were still with the same customers–a couple of them sitting down right along with them chatting away!

I suddenly felt a wave of invisibility come over me. Did I exist? Was I really there waiting for a haircut? What the heck is going on? I thought–how much effort would it take for one of those stylists to come over or even look my way to let me know they hadn’t forgotten me and that someone would be with me shortly…

But that didn’t happen–even after steadily looking their way hoping for some eye contact. A few more minutes ticked by. I decided I was going to make my move: I was either going to stand up and ask how much longer or was going to walk out. I concluded that given the current situation, I was past the point of feeling this would be a satisfactory haircut experience. Even if they came up to me in the next 5 seconds I would most likely not be a happy customer because I felt ignored. So I got up, crossed my name off the list, and left. (more…)