Posts Tagged ‘practice’

Deservedness

Sunday, November 26th, 2017

How deserving do you believe you are?

Do you feel that you deserve whatever it is that you want in your life? Do you feel you deserve the good you have in your life?

If you feel that you are deserving but don’t put your deservedness into practice you won’t live your life and show up in your life as the deserving person you are.

Often people feel that they must stage themselves: to be do say and act in specific ways to prove themselves worthy especially as it relates to other people. In fact we often feel pretty darn good about ourselves until we run into another person or a group of people who makes us feel less than who we are.

Sometimes people genuinely don’t think they are deserving and therefore worthy of deservedness because they haven’t done anything spectacular with their life!

Spectacular? What does a person have to do to be considered spectacular?

If we all hold ourselves up to some lofty standard of what constitutes as spectacular we would fail at being the miracle we already are.

The fear of not being worthy damages us beyond measure.

We are deserving–wholly and unequivocally deserving because we exist.

We are deserving. It doesn’t matter what others say to the contrary. You live from the inside out meaning who you are inside is who you are regardless of what other people say do or think.

Other people aren’t in your shoes and have no idea what your circumstances are. Other people who make you feel less than are not deserving of your time and attention. There is no room for that negativity.

Own your deservedness. No one else can own it for you.

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Anxiety and Beyond

Monday, March 28th, 2016

Anxiety is never satisfied. In fact there are times when anxiety really outdoes itself and goes beyond the norm.

If it could it would keep us alert 24/7.

It depresses, alerts, foils, manipulates.

It talks us into something one minute and out of it the next.

It is relentless and we wage lifelong battles with it.

No one escapes but we can learn to lessen it.

So what do we do to tame this savage beast? How do we put it in it’s place so we can live life without succumbing to it’s wishes?

It’s so simple yet extremely difficult to calm anxiety down but
we’ve got to control it.

Control the amount of time it takes over in our lives.

We’ve got to tell it to go away, shut the door, slam the lid, seal it up.

Walk away.

We tell it to shut up and mean it!

There is no one else who can.

At 3am enough is enough.

When we obsess, hold onto a thought, keep a conversation going that needed to end 30 minutes ago we’ve allowed anxiety to take over. Next time you’re in that moment

STOP.

Take a deep breath in through the nose and hold for a count of four then release through your mouth. Your body gives you the signal that you’re okay.

BUT don’t take too many deep breaths in a row or you will hyperventilate which will make your anxiety worse.

You might think–deep breathing won’t get me a new job, solve my relationship problems, pay the bills, or get me out of debt and you’re right, it won’t

BUT

Taking a deep breath every now and then gets oxygen to the brain which in turn allows you to think more clearly. It also slows the heart rate down and makes you feel less anxious even if for a moment.

And if you put together enough of these brief moments whose to say that your body and mind won’t be better able to handle some of the major stressors in your life.

Give yourself a break every thirty minutes or so to take a deep breath. You could set an alarm on your phone, find a visual cue like a clock or make a sign that says BREATHE…to help you. Stick that sign where you can see it!

Whatever you use, make it a practice to take big deep breaths regularly throughout your day. It’s one way to take an active measure to keep anxiety at bay.

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Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

Take chances and make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.   Mary Tyler Moore