Posts Tagged ‘positive attitude’

Expectations & the Holidays

Saturday, December 10th, 2011

Expectations can wreck holidays for people.

If you envision Kodak moments and your expectations are not realized you suffer disappointment.

Sometimes these disappointing moments are engrained in your memory to the point where the holiday wrecks overshadow great ones.

If it helps, try to stay as even keeled as possible during the holidays.

Try the following:

Avoid overspending on gifts. You’ve probably heard this a million times but overspending tends to increase our expectations from others significantly.

Maintain a positive attitude. When around family you don’t see on a regular basis it can be challenging. Adopt the attitude that you can deal with what comes your way in a respectful manner for both you and others.

If you have small children decide how much stimulation is reasonable. Gifts can be spread out over a period of several days or even weeks if it helps.

If you will be alone during the holidays take extra special care of you. The media attempts to sell us on family/friends/social gatherings. It’s not necessarily this way for everyone. If you know you will be alone spend this time doing what you want and enjoying it. I have spent a few holidays alone and was okay with it because I planned for it. Avoid Christmas programming, Christmas movies etc. if these bother you.

Get rid of the idea that there are set rules on how to feel and what to do during the holidays. You’re unique as is your situation. Follow your instincts.


Brace Yourself–Life Is Difficult

Sunday, October 23rd, 2011

I had the opportunity to watch a gem of a movie–The Beaver. You may want to check it out.

In the movie the main character suffers from depression. He doesn’t want to live and tries to hang himself but isn’t successful. His challenge is to engage himself in his own life, to embrace the life he has  so that ultimately he wants to live.

Life is full of challenges. There are times when we interpret these challenges to be frustrations or road blocks keeping us from living the life we want. Attitude plays a role–if we believe challenges can’t be overcome we will retreat and blame circumstances for our inability to take action.

Sometimes we want to meet a new challenge but don’t know what to do. We’ve got options but there is uncertainty tied to each one and the fear of making the wrong choice keeps us from moving forward.

At other times, as with the character in The Beaver, we give up. Life takes too much effort and despite all the positives we’ve got going don’t feel up to putting out any effort at all. If this is the case it will take more than our own effort to clear the way. Help is needed–family friends and often professional to get us back on track.

For all of us,  life is difficult. There will always be challenges and obstacles and even boredom to overcome. If you or someone you know has a zest for life and faces each day as an opportunity, you/they work on it. Facing life head on with a positive attitude is hard work but worth it.

The challenges put before us are there because that is the way life is. There are no guarantees. Living a full life with rich experiences requires taking risks.

I’d rather live life by risking  based on my best judgement than standing still and wishing I would have tried.

Life is difficult; that’s a given. How you choose to manage those difficulties is in your hands.




Thursday, November 11th, 2010

Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

Winston Churchill

Aging, Yes!

Wednesday, July 14th, 2010

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.   Mark Twain