Posts Tagged ‘pleaser’

The Accommodater

Wednesday, May 17th, 2017

If you’re an accommodater you stop being genuine because it’s more important to keep the peace.

When you accommodate you worry about how another person feels as it relates to every little action you take which creates an imbalance of power.

For example, another person may make a comment about what you’re doing or not doing as it relates to them….maybe they want you to stop whatever it is you’re doing and do what they want you to do.

If you are in the middle of an activity you don’t need to make excuses for doing what you’re doing and you don’t need to stop what you’re doing just because another person implies that you should.

It is pretty darn liberating to say no.

Yes, is easy. Yes is always easy.

When you say yes you accommodate. It’s pleasing, it makes everything nice and neat and without conflict.

No is harder, always harder.

No goes against, is different from and is in conflict with.

When you mean no, say no. If you say yes but you really mean no you’re lying to yourself and the other person.

When you say what you mean you are helping others understand you better. You’re honoring your individuality.

Just do it.

You’ll be glad you did.

Note: If you’re in a domestic violence situation please seek help.

The Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

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When You Are Misjudged

Saturday, May 2nd, 2015

You will find there are people who will misjudge you.

You will find there are people who will misinterpret things you say and do.

You will find there are people who speak ill of you to others.

There is not one thing you can do to change the mind of an individual who has misjudged you and/or refuses to speak to you.

Hold your head up and keep going.

Treat yourself with respect.

Treat others with respect.

Those who have misjudged you will either come around or they won’t. What they do or don’t do is their business; tend to your own business.

Live your life with dignity and grace and above all else do not allow the words of other people to drag you down. Do your best and don’t worry about the rest.

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