Posts Tagged ‘own’

Deservedness

Sunday, November 26th, 2017

How deserving do you believe you are?

Do you feel that you deserve whatever it is that you want in your life? Do you feel you deserve the good you have in your life?

If you feel that you are deserving but don’t put your deservedness into practice you won’t live your life and show up in your life as the deserving person you are.

Often people feel that they must stage themselves: to be do say and act in specific ways to prove themselves worthy especially as it relates to other people. In fact we often feel pretty darn good about ourselves until we run into another person or a group of people who makes us feel less than who we are.

Sometimes people genuinely don’t think they are deserving and therefore worthy of deservedness because they haven’t done anything spectacular with their life!

Spectacular? What does a person have to do to be considered spectacular?

If we all hold ourselves up to some lofty standard of what constitutes as spectacular we would fail at being the miracle we already are.

The fear of not being worthy damages us beyond measure.

We are deserving–wholly and unequivocally deserving because we exist.

We are deserving. It doesn’t matter what others say to the contrary. You live from the inside out meaning who you are inside is who you are regardless of what other people say do or think.

Other people aren’t in your shoes and have no idea what your circumstances are. Other people who make you feel less than are not deserving of your time and attention. There is no room for that negativity.

Own your deservedness. No one else can own it for you.

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The Accommodater

Tuesday, December 8th, 2015

If you’re the accommodater you’re pretty well set on accommodating other people.

When you accommodate you stop being genuine.

If you worry about how another person feels as it relates to every little action you take you create an imbalance of power.

For example, another person may make a comment about what you’re doing or not doing as it relates to them….maybe they want you to stop whatever it is you’re doing and do what they want you to do.

If you are in the middle of an activity you don’t need to make excuses for doing what you’re doing and you don’t need to stop what you’re doing because another person implies that you should.

It is pretty darn liberating to say no.

Yes, is easy. Yes is always easy.

Yes is accommodating, it’s pleasing, it makes everything nice and neat and without conflict.

No is harder, always harder.

No goes against, is different from and is in total conflict with.

When you mean no, say no. If you say yes but you really mean no you’re lying to yourself and the other person.

You’re being genuine when you need to be; you’re honoring your individuality.

Just do it.

You’ll be glad you did.

Note: If you’re in a domestic violence situation please seek help.

http://www.thehotline.org/

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Women Work Harder But Own Less

Tuesday, August 27th, 2013

Do you think this is the case here in the US? In Tanzania it is:

http://bit.ly/17VSus4

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