The damage caused by domestic violence is written on the faces of the victims. It’s presence can be heard in the tone of voice. The heavy burden  seen in the slumped shoulders, hanging head, or vacant eyes.

If it goes on long enough and is severe enough the spirit of the person can be broken.

Years of stress, despair, defeat and heartache play havoc on the mind. Following written instuctions, learning new job skills, or even reading a book for enjoyment can become challenging to the point of total frustration. The background chatter in your head distracts you during times when focus is what is needed.

For those who have been accustom to abuse since childhood it’s not much of a stretch to become involved in destructive relationships as adults. If experiencing a gentle touch, warm  smile, or soothing voice was the exception rather than the rule not having warm and healthy relationships will feel normal accepted and even expected in adulthood.

The great news is that there is hope for men and women who have been abused to step out into their own light. I have heard from people who don’t believe this is possible. They feel they are doomed to continue down the path they are on. If your thinking is along this line please know that you can change your direction and your situation. Dig down deep; you can find the strength.

It is not not easy and not quick but you can do it.

If you are in or coming out of a destructive relationship seek information through a variety of resources. Life can get better. Seek out individuals you trust such as a parent, friend, guardian, sibling, minister, neighbor, or another person. Call your local domestic abuse hotline or call the national hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224. If you have decided to leave your situation remember that you must have a plan and if necessary contact local law enforcement.

Don’t settle for anything less than the best for you.