Posts Tagged ‘need’

Test the Water

Saturday, June 9th, 2018

When we don’t test the water we don’t know where we stand.

I was taught not to disrupt the flow and keep up the status quo.

That was poor advice but it was what I learned to do.

If we don’t test the water we don’t know just how much we can grow.

In all relationships we have a choice.

We can stay with what we know and basically tread water indefinitely.

Or we can present a challenge to self and partner. Raise the bar so to speak.

Ask for what you need and want. You are not asking for too much when you do this.
It is never too much to ask for what you want and to have your needs met–it is a sign of strength.

A true partnership is much stronger than we think. A partnership that goes untested is more fragile than one that has faced multiple challenges.

A true valued partner provides opportunity for candid and quality conversations. They will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. If you never get to the place where the water is tested chances are you will not meet growth
head on. And if you choose not to grow your going in the opposite direction.

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The Next Time

Saturday, March 7th, 2015

The next time you’re concerned about what he thinks

Give as much thought as to what you think.

What you think is equally important.

You have to live with each decision you make.

He isn’t impacted in the same way you are.

If you like the dress, the shirt the pants–wear it.

If you feel strongly about preparing a certain meal, do it.

If you want to go to a movie that he isn’t interested in

let him know that you still want to go and go.

Doesn’t mean you’re no fun.

Doesn’t mean you don’t care.

Doesn’t mean anything but that you want to see a certain movie

And he doesn’t want to go.

You are you first and foremost and need to recognize that.

You are you until your last day on earth and you are a

blessing to those who love you just as you are.

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