Posts Tagged ‘mom’

On Being Liked & What Mom Thinks

Sunday, July 20th, 2014

If you are living your life like the rest of us you probably hope that most of the people you are close to in your life actually like you. Everyone else – you’re not too bothered by whether they like you or not.

The thing you may be more concerned about with casual acquaintances is their approval rating. How do you rank with them in terms of the decisions you make, the way you do your work, etc.

None of us may want to admit it; but walking around in daily life, we look for approval. Maybe not so much that we’ve got to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the things we do are acceptable but more that what we do is in line with what other people would do if they were in our shoes.

I was talking with my mom awhile back and she let me know that she thinks  my life is too fast paced and that I will wear myself out in no time at all.

I would like to say that what she had to say didn’t bother me but the reality is this is mom and what she says makes a difference to me.

So I told her that she’s right, my life is fast paced because I have  a new business (now with it two years–still new) and have to learn lots of new information and remember what I already know. She’s saying okay, I see, uh huh. But I know she still thinks I’m too busy.

I took note of what she said and will think about things I can do to give me more time to relax.

After all, this is mom talking. She may not like my chosen career (she says she wouldn’t work in sales on a bet) and she may not completely understand why I’m doing it but she respects that I made the decision to do it.

On wanting to be liked–I’d rather be liked than hated but when it gets right down to it, being liked by others is nice but I’d rather be liked by me and those close to me which Mom is among those at the top of that list.

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Life Lessons & Curve Balls

Monday, January 16th, 2012

A little over a year ago I got a call from my son’s doctor. I was told that a mild case of anemia seemed to be getting worse and that a bone marrow biopsy was in order.

A day which started out as a good one changed when I got that call. Everything I’d planned that day instantly took a back seat. There was only one thing on my mind; I had to get to my son.

I met him in his apartment building parking lot as he’d just driven back from the appointment. I asked him how he felt and kept asking him until the day of the biopsy six days later. He told me I was annoying. He hated that I called him five times a day to ask him how he was doing. His answer–“Mom, I’m okay.”

But I wasn’t. I was a wreck and spent a lot of time revisiting the past,  explanation as to why.

Finally the day of the scan arrived. My son who was used to doctors and procedures because of having medical issues most of his life, took it all much better than I did. The nurse practitioner who was to complete the biopsy told me I could watch.

So I did and then I passed out.

I almost made it through to the end but the last part which involved getting a sample of the bone was more than I could handle.

They told me to put my head between my legs and breathe.

I did and it didn’t help.

Fortunately there was a room with an empty bed across the hall.

The next thing I knew there were six heads over me shouting WAKE UP! (more…)

On Being Nice

Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

My son said to me today–I’m a good person mom; I’m nice to people.

I said great. That’s good. Be nice, just don’t be too nice.

If you’re too nice there are those who will think your up to something. There are others who will take advantage of your sweet nature.

 

Online Urgency versus Important Daily Living

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

Last week I was without  internet access and at least in the beginning was pretty darn anxious about it. I guess you never know how tied you are to a piece of equipment until you don’t have it.  There were a few days without access when I was able to check my email from a son’s computer but no time for much of anything else. As much as I hate to admit it, to a certain extent, I’ve bought into cyberspaces’ definition of what is urgent in life and it makes me nervous.

There is very little happening online that can’t wait though we’re often led to believe that’s not the case…

It’s a urgent concern if your internet security system expires.

Your day may seem incomplete without checking the email in-box.

Internet marketers remind us regularly about special offers needing our immediate attention–if we fail to respond we’ll lose out on the opportunity of a lifetime and once the doors close they won’t reopen ever or at least not for a long time.

Nothing, absolutely nothing online is truly urgent though we have been programmed to think it is. Special offers will come around again. One thing we can be sure of is that at least so far there is no shortage of internet entrepreneurs.

On the other hand there are things in my life that truly are important:

Important is a phone call to my Mom.

Important is continuing to search for a used car with my son.

Important is my son’s high school graduation day.

There is nothing on the internet that even comes close to what is truly important. And if there is something I need to purchase or a task that demands my immediate attention–it will need to wait for at least a few more days until I’m up and running again.

Important versus internet urgency? There’s really no comparison…