Posts Tagged ‘missing’

Locked Up or Locked Out?

Sunday, February 26th, 2017

No Contact Warning, if you are offended by talk of breastfeeding you may want to move past the first few paragraphs.

Have you ever been locked up or locked out?

The other day I had a window treatment consultation with a customer who is a lactation consultant and it got it me to thinking of the experience I’d had with my last son who nursed for an extended period of time.
For the most part it was a great breastfeeding experience but there was a point when I got a breast infection which was a truly painful experience.

There was not much I could do to relieve the pain–my son’s nursing provided some relief but it wasn’t enough and I was miserable. I felt locked up. I didn’t have the right key to break the stronghold the infection had on me and the only way to get long lasting relief was to take an antibiotic. Once I got on the medication I found relief and ceased the locked up feeling I’d had.

Being locked up in the case of a breast infection is painful but there are other ways we get locked up or locked out, for instance:

Have you ever had a case of the nerves to the point where your words are locked up? I mean you may get some croaking verbalization to come out but it is truly difficult and silence is a better alternative. I had this happen once in an interview situation and no amount of water or deep breathing brought relief. I somehow croaked my way through but it was rough….

Have you ever been locked out of your car house or apartment? Locked out of your place of business or unable to open a combination lock?

Last week I couldn’t get my garage door to open. I entered the code, no luck, nothing. The back gate lock wouldn’t budge due to very cold conditions and swelling of the wood. I couldn’t get the front door to open because the deadbolt has a mind of it’s own and at that particular time no amount of leaning in or pulling out to get it to open would work.

Then out of the blue, the garage door opened on it’s own–must have been a radio frequency issue–but I was finally able to get inside.

Being closed out is tough and when it happens it affects us mightily. We can be locked out of jobs, promotions, all sorts of opportunities because there is something we need and don’t have or some intangible that we are missing. In the case of an entry to a house, vehicle, gate, etc we can get the right key or code and then relief is ours.

In the case of a job, promotion, or desired opportunity, being locked out could last awhile.

If it’s possible to get what we need like a license, certification, award, etc. we know what we need to do.

But it may be that this one thing we need to unlock our locked out conditions may not come to us.

Alexander Graham Bell said it best:

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”

Feeling locked up whether it be breastfeeding, your words, incarceration, or another way, relief comes through a process–whatever that may be…

If you are locked out, move forward, find a way to appreciate the door standing in front of you that is open.

You’re Enough

Wednesday, April 30th, 2014

You’re enough.

The way you are is enough.

If you think you’re missing something or need to be more of something

You’re wrong.

We can always improve and develop but we shouldn’t twist and turn ourselves upside down

to be something we’re not.

The whole of you is unique.

Don’t forget it.

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A Leader? Who, Me?

Tuesday, January 8th, 2013

Do you think of a leader as someone other than you? Some of us get into relationships with difficult individuals because we are looking for someone who we think has something we are missing or appears to be someone we are not. We gravitate toward these people and in the process shove ourselves out of our own lives.

Why do we do this? Because it is easier than stepping up to the plate and putting ourselves into the forefront of our own lives. We have the ability and we have the intelligence but what we often choose to believe is that we can’t do it and need someone else to hold us up. We might also believe that only the very charismatic are meant to be strong leaders. And that only the outspoken know what is best. Why do they know what is best? Probably because they have absolutely no problem telling us how much they know and why we should listen to and pay attention to them!

We don’t have to talk our way into leadership. Please follow this link re: The Hobbit:    http://onforb.es/12JOdr2