Posts Tagged ‘miserable’

When You Feel You’ve been Wronged

Tuesday, April 5th, 2016

There are people who seek to do whatever it takes to reach their life goals even when doing so includes stepping on other people and squashing them into the ground. If you happen to have been caught in the chaos resulting from being associated with one of these individuals you may wholeheartedly feel that you’ve been wronged.

Unfortunately those who attempt to step on others will likely keep doing this because they are programmed to do so and usually bully, are manipulative, and above everything else, get away with what they do.

If you feel you’ve been wronged you may have thoughts of dishing out to them what you feel they’ve dished out to you.

You may feel you’re a victim and have an overwhelming amount of pent up frustration.

I know, I’ve been there.

Not too long ago I had deep frustration toward a fellow business associate who I felt had done some underhanded things in order to increase their business. There were times when I felt sick to my stomach and nearly paralyzed about the situation.

At times I cried inconsolably and was on the verge of making myself absolutely miserable.

It didn’t take long to realize I was gaining nothing except more frustration and frustration builds on more frustration until something big happens like a traffic accident, an illness, yelling at someone else just because they are available to yell at. Overeating over-drinking and oversleeping are other possibilities.

I thought about giving up my business and walking away.

I was obsessing about the situation on a pretty regular basis.

I knew I had to get a grip on myself so began by taking a good hard look at what I needed to do and stopped concentrating on what I had absolutely no control over.

First thing was to focus on doing a better job on what I did have control of by making decisions that helped me grow my business.

Also made a point of affirming on a daily basis that I could positively make my life and business better regardless of anything or anyone else.

I read more and concentrated on the things I had to concentrate on to be a better business owner.

I knew that above everything else I could choose to let my frustration and resentment continue to eat me alive or just let it go and overall I feel that I have.

Of course everyone’s situation is different and there are times when actions need to be taken and if you’re in this type of situation you’ll either know it or it will become increasingly clear over time.

But even if you do have to take action you can still refuse to be consumed by the situation. In the long run you’ll feel & live better despite the wrong that has been done and most likely learn a heck of a lot about yourself in the process.

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For One Second

Saturday, December 27th, 2014

“[F]or just one second, look at your life and see how perfect it is. Stop looking for the next secret door that is going to lead you to your real life. Stop waiting. This is it: there’s nothing else. It’s here, and you’d better decide to enjoy it or you’re going to be miserable wherever you go, for the rest of your life, forever.”
Lev Grossman, The Magicians

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Overcoming Depression

Sunday, February 10th, 2013

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