Posts Tagged ‘loyalty’

Valentine’s Day is for Everyone

Monday, February 8th, 2010

If you’re not currently in a romantic relationship you might feel this isn’t a holiday you want or for that matter have any interest in celebrating but you might want to rethink that.

Sure for many, Valentines’ Day is a day to express love to a special someone but it’s a special day regardless of  love relationship status as a day to express love toward family and friends. It’s a holiday to appreciate the people we have in our lives and let them know we care about them.

St. Valentine appreciated love and family and did what he could to help out fellow citizens living in Rome during the third century. Emperor Claudius II ruled at this time and had a big love of war. He wanted men to join his armies and fight in wars but they didn’t want to. They instead wanted to stay home with their families rather than sign up to fight. This made Claudius furious so he decided not to allow people to get married at all.

Since St. Valentine was a priest he spent a fair amount of his time marrying couples and continued to do so even after the law to ban marriage was passed. Many people supported what he was doing however he was eventually caught performing a marriage ceremony, thrown in jail, and sentenced to death.

One of his supporters was the daughter of a prison guard who befriended him and visited him while he was in jail. Before he died St. Valentine sent her a note thanking her for her visits. He signed the note “Love from your Valentine.”

St. Valentine died on February 14, 269 A.D. We celebrate love and friendship on this day. Some people might not know about St. Valentine but even if they don’t this holiday is celebrated by many in order to remember those they love.

Relationship Gratitude

Saturday, November 21st, 2009

Thanksgiving is around the corner. It is time to give thanks for the people in our lives as well as our joys comforts and blessings.

I’m taking part in a challenge to think of six different things I’m grateful for every day for twenty one days. Yesterday’s list: family, close friends, dog, house, and running vehicle.

Today’s list: good co-workers, health, nice neighbors, heat, water, clothing. I have nineteen days to go.

On day one my first three have to do with relationships. They are what I value most because they make my life worth living.

When I first came out of my marriage I had a burning desire to be employed. I had struggled for many years with underemployment so felt I wouldn’t be a success unless I was employed and earning a good income. It had been drilled into my head that a person’s value was measured by the size of their paycheck and the number of dollars in their bank account.

I”m definitely grateful for a consistent income however when it gets right down to it, money is the means to pay for basic needs. Having a regular income makes life easier. Having more money is definitely better than not having enough but if I had to choose great relationships or lots of money? The relationships would win out.

If I earned a meager income or didn’t earn another dime I believe I would find a way to survive.  If I lost my relationships how would I replace them? The ones with people who have my back and I theirs, are there to laugh and cry with,  who will help me if I’m sick, tired, or hurt, those relationships are truly priceless.