Posts Tagged ‘listen’

Rolling Around With Bad People

Sunday, September 3rd, 2017

No ContactWhen you choose to become involved with any new person it’s always your decision to do so.

When you roll around with a person who at first presented as a good person then you discover is really a bad person and yet you continue to stay with this person in hopes they will get better, be nicer, and not hurt you, it is always your decision to do so.

And after you’ve had enough go arounds with this person which could be months years or decades and you decide to leave this person it is again your decision to do so.

Then When this person comes to you begging for forgiveness promising they will change their ways and behave better, be kinder, straighten up their act, stop lying, cheating, and doing other bad things it is your decision to start rolling around with them again or stay away from them for good.

It is not about them.

It is not about anything that they do, say, act upon, manipulate, cause harm to, or destroy.

It is only ever about you and at the beginning, the very beginning, listening to what they say about who they are because they will tell you exactly who they are if you really listen and ask the hard questions.

It is about you listening to your inner voice, the one deep inside you telling you in the very beginning that something is off.

It is about you not second guessing your inner being who knows and loves you and wants only the very best for you. When you second guess you it’s because you let your ego take over and the ego is not the part of you that has the deep sense of who you are.

It must become automatic to listen to your inner being and follow it,learn from it, love it, believe in it and more than anything…trust it because it is on your side. Any new person you meet doesn’t know you and has no history with you. The only way you will get to know any new person is to spend time with them, engage in conversation with them, and ask them the hard questions. You will learn by getting to know them what those hard questions are.

Be kind to you and others will start showing up in your life who will do the same.

Listen Up

Monday, December 28th, 2015

This time of year people are usually starting to think about changes they want to make in the new year.

One way we can all change is to listen to what others have to say.

People around us–relatives, friends, acquaintances, teachers, spouses, children all have opinions and want nothing more than to be listened to.

Active listening allows us to be totally tuned in to what another person has to say. It is a precious gift to listen.

The last thing you want to do is pretend you’re listening but tuning in and out and then trying to catch up at the end of the conversation.

It is easier to listen if you’re not distracted.
Harder to do when the dog barks, the phone rings, you’re listening to one child while another one comes up and asks you a question.

The problem is that sometimes even when it’s just you and one other person, listening isn’t always easy but listening is one of the most important things you can do for your family, friends, co-workers and for you.

Here are some quotes about listening:

If you make listening and observation your occupation you will gain much more than you can by talk. Robert Baden-Powell

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. Stephen R. Covey

The art of conversation lies in listening. Malcomb Forbes

and

We have two ears and one tongue so that we would listen more and talk less. Diogenes

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Money Ears

Thursday, February 19th, 2015

When money talks money ears listen but how long can anyone listen to

what money has to say?

The sweetest words don’t come from hearing money talk.

The sweetest words come from listening to the heart of a voice that wants

nothing in return but your time attention and love.

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Be Quiet and Listen

Friday, February 28th, 2014

When you talk, you are repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.

J.P McEvoy

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Your Inner Voice

Sunday, August 26th, 2012

Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path.          Henry Winkler

Working With Women

Saturday, January 7th, 2012

When you have the opportunity to work with women you will learn that there is  much value in what each one has to share. All you need to do is listen.

 

Friday, June 24th, 2011

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.      Winston Churchill

Experience

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

Experience has taught me a few things. One is to listen to your gut, no matter how good something sounds on paper. The second is that you’re generally better off sticking with what you know. And the third is that sometimes your best investments are the ones you don’t make.      Donald Trump

Listen Humbly:

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to respond.

Jimmy Manyi, Tiger Brands, South Africa