Posts Tagged ‘like’

Just For One Second

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015

“[F]or just one second, look at your life and see how perfect it is. Stop looking for the next secret door that is going to lead you to your real life. Stop waiting. This is it: there’s nothing else. It’s here, and you’d better decide to enjoy it or you’re going to be miserable wherever you go, for the rest of your life, forever.”
Lev Grossman, The Magicians

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The Next Time

Saturday, March 7th, 2015

The next time you’re concerned about what he thinks

Give as much thought as to what you think.

What you think is equally important.

You have to live with each decision you make.

He isn’t impacted in the same way you are.

If you like the dress, the shirt the pants–wear it.

If you feel strongly about preparing a certain meal, do it.

If you want to go to a movie that he isn’t interested in

let him know that you still want to go and go.

Doesn’t mean you’re no fun.

Doesn’t mean you don’t care.

Doesn’t mean anything but that you want to see a certain movie

And he doesn’t want to go.

You are you first and foremost and need to recognize that.

You are you until your last day on earth and you are a

blessing to those who love you just as you are.

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Proficient

Thursday, May 22nd, 2014

Sometimes people don’t want to try something new because they think they it will take too long to become proficient at the task. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to figure things out; it matters that you start.

It can take a lifetime to achieve the proficiency you want.

So many times we wait too long.

The start doesn’t have to be perfect–there is no perfect time.

You don’t have to be perfect at the task.

You don’t have to be proficient in a day month year or 50 years.

You just need to enjoy it.

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Your Interests and Passions

Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Your interests and passions are what set you apart from everyone else in the world. Make it a priority to focus on you and give yourself time to do what you want on a regular basis.

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You Might Love ‘Em but Do You Like ‘Em?

Wednesday, August 8th, 2012

Have you ever felt that although you feel love for your partner you really don’t like him or her?

You sure wouldn’t be alone.

It is not uncommon at times to dislike a partner–even a nice partner who treats you well. They could be having a bad day and/or are stressed or maybe both of you are out of sorts, that happens.  However if you’ve had or have a partner who is none too nice to begin with life can be hard on a regular basis.

Yesterday I went with my son to a local retail outlet to exchange an item. In front of us was another customer making a return. He tells the clerk he needs to exchange what he bought because his girlfriend’s idiot son broke it (fortunately neither the girlfriend or her son were with him.)

I immediately felt sorry for his girlfriend and her son. I wondered about this guy and how truly loving he could be to either of them. I thought well maybe she loves the guy but how easy is he to like?

There are things that eat away at people for sure but one of the hardest to take day in and out are the jabbing stabbing cruel things people say to those they are closest to. If this man referred to his gf’s child as an idiot to a stranger how would he address him at home?

A piggy bank comes to mind. When someone says something nice they deposit a coin. After enough coins get deposited and the bank is full they break it open and treat themselves. On the other hand, if cruel words are said a coin is taken out. If the cruel words outnumber the nice ones that bank isn’t going to fill up anytime soon.

How is it possible to like let alone love a person who is cruel to you, your children, your parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, or pets?  Words sting. You can pretend that words don’t hurt but deep down you”re not fooling anyone and especially not fooling yourself. Eventually love fades and is replaced by a ton of anger and resentment.

You don’t need it and neither do your loved ones.

So what do you do?

For starters you stop taking it.

Let the person know it’s not okay and you will no longer put up with it.

If it continues it’s up to you to decide if you can live another day or more the way you’re living now. Decide if it’s worth your health and that of your family.

As always, if you are in a violent relationship please seek the advice of a professional before making changes in your current situation.

National Domestic Violence Hotline  1-800-799-SAFE.