Posts Tagged ‘leaving’


Sunday, November 20th, 2016

If you fear leaving your house–agoraphobia–you are not alone. It’s okay to be afraid but don’t let that fear win out. Don’t  say, I can’t do it because I’m afraid. Say, I’m afraid but I know it’s not good for me to stay in my house so I’m going to get out. The effort that it takes to leave is worth it. If you are depressed try this–get up, open the front door, and walk outside. Look up at the sky, look down at the ground. Take a breath. Being outside is so helpful when it comes to reframing the way you feel. It is a simple yet very effective way to feel better.

If physical pain or depression prevents you from leaving your home combat it. See your physician, mental health specialist, or another professional you trust. As long as you have the ability or have another person who can help you leave your home you will increase your quality of life by doing so.

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When You Exit a Relationship Door Opens for A New One

Wednesday, May 14th, 2014

Even though you leave a partner, when you exit the relationship there is a void to fill and it can take a long while to recover.  Whether the relationship was a healthy or destructive one the feeling of love for this person stays with you.

Over time the sorrow pain anger and frustration of having been in this relationship and having it end will soften. With the right attitude you will move forward with strong insight from having been part of it.

What determines growth is acceptance of the circumstances that led you to leave. You knew and still know that in order to live a healthy happy life you had to leave a person that you truly loved.

The victory is that you loved. Each of us who have been moved by love know that it leaves traces on the heart. Memories of love stay with us and long after the fire burns out marks are left as proof that loved existed. To deny that love existed keeps you in denial. Accepting that love was there helps you move forward.

Many times the end of one love prepares for a new healthier one;  a new door opens that may not have been available to you otherwise.

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Domestic Violence Ends Tragically in San Diego

Tuesday, October 9th, 2012

Violence is the reason stated for one out of five divorces. If there is ever a time when it is better to be safe than sorry it would be when breaking off a relationship. If you are thinking of leaving a relationship proceed with caution.

Please read:

Leaving Domestic Violence

Friday, February 10th, 2012

Escaping is Difficult

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

Please Don’t Go

Thursday, December 9th, 2010


Friday, October 8th, 2010

The following is a list of some of the ways “helping” systems, services, and providers re-victimize women who have experienced emotional, verbal, or physical violence.

  • We don’t believe her
  • We don’t recognize her strengths
  • We fail to realize her manipulative tendencies are survival skills.
  • We fail to realize her efforts to hide the violence are oftentimes her efforts to prevent his violence to her
  • We fail to realize her “dishonesty” to us can be an attempt to keep herself safer.
  • We question why she stayed in the relationship or returns to it.
  • We question her inconsistency and react to her not following through with goals, etc.
  • We fault her parenting
  • We “evaluate” her
  • We only like “good victims” and enlightened victims
  • We hold cultural biases: we are sexist, racist and homophobic
  • We take over her decisions for her life (more…)

How do You Know When it’s Time to Leave a Destructive Relationship?

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

Here you go: