Posts Tagged ‘involved’

Rolling Around With Bad People

Sunday, September 3rd, 2017

No ContactWhen you choose to become involved with any new person it’s always your decision to do so.

When you roll around with a person who at first presented as a good person then you discover is really a bad person and yet you continue to stay with this person in hopes they will get better, be nicer, and not hurt you, it is always your decision to do so.

And after you’ve had enough go arounds with this person which could be months years or decades and you decide to leave this person it is again your decision to do so.

Then When this person comes to you begging for forgiveness promising they will change their ways and behave better, be kinder, straighten up their act, stop lying, cheating, and doing other bad things it is your decision to start rolling around with them again or stay away from them for good.

It is not about them.

It is not about anything that they do, say, act upon, manipulate, cause harm to, or destroy.

It is only ever about you and at the beginning, the very beginning, listen to what they say about who they are because they will tell you exactly who they are if you really listen and ask the hard questions.

It is about you listening to your inner voice, the one deep inside you telling you in the very beginning that something is off.

It is about you not second guessing your inner being who knows and loves you and wants only the very best for you. When you second guess you it’s because you let your ego take over and the ego is not the part of you that has the deep sense of who you are.

It must become automatic to listen to your inner being and follow it, learn from it, love it, believe in it and more than anything…trust it because it is on your side. Any new person you meet doesn’t know you and has no history with you. The only way you will get to know any new person is to spend time with them, engage in conversation with them, and ask them the hard questions that you may be hesitate asking but that your gut tells you to ask. They may tell you it’s none of your business or that they don’t want to answer and that is absolutely fine. They don’t have to and you don’t need to spend time with them. No one else on this earth has to answer a single question that you ask but you must ask anyway.

Men especially have a tendency to say that they are not too revealing about who they are and may even tell you that you are pushy.

Be kind to you and others will start showing up in your life who will do the same.

On How to Feel Less Overwhelmed

Tuesday, November 11th, 2014

When you do nothing you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.       Unknown

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Avoid Cheaters/Cheating in the Future

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

Once you’ve been cheated on you want to avoid cheaters and cheating at all costs. Cheating leaves a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach and you want no part of it.

Years later the physical feeling may go away but you still remember the sense of loss and violation.

The only surefire way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to never get involved with anyone in the future. Stay away from relationships altogether. Keep to yourself and lock your door.


Well isolation is always an option but not likely one you want to give serious consideration to.

The best way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to be aware.

Be aware of how you feel when in relationships.

Be aware of your questions.

Be aware of early affection.

Be aware of situations or circumstances that don’t seem quite right.

Be aware when you are accepting excuses.

Be aware of no shows and then thinking you must have got the details wrong.

Ask the hard or uncomfortable questions. Don’t think your questions are silly, stupid, or none of your business. If you are in a relationship and you have a question, ask it. You know the difference between prying in a brand new relationship and asking for an explanation in an established one.

Pay attention.

Pay attention to what you see, how you feel, how they act, what they say, how they say it, what isn’t said. Observe their body language and your own. Follow your gut instincts.

Pay attention to sudden disappearing acts and then…reappearing acts.

As you get clear about your expectations for yourself and your relationships  paying attention will become second nature.

You will only be fooled if you choose to be. Sweet words and long embraces are in the moment. Genuine feelings sincerity and love are developed over time.



Feeling Overwhelmed?

Sunday, November 7th, 2010

When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.    Author Unknown