Posts Tagged ‘hunch’

A Hunch

Friday, May 13th, 2011

A  hunch is creativity trying to tell you something.     Frank Capra

Don’t Know What to Do? Take a Small Action

Monday, October 18th, 2010

One of life’s biggest challenges is not knowing what to do. Not knowing what to do is a decision to stay uncertain or in limbo. If you don’t know what to do about a certain situation, you must figure it out if it’s important to you to do so.

There are times when moving forward with a decision is squelched due to being concerned about the rightness or wrongness of a next step.

It doesn’t take long to determine if a next step is right or wrong. If it feels right you will naturally build from your previous step. If it feels wrong, you will pull back or re-route your decision and go in another direction.

How do you know the next step? You don’t know for sure but it is likely that you will come close to a good answer by seeking information.

Then, take a step by going with the hunch that feels accurate for you.

What is your alternative?

Not moving forward.

Say that you are in a  toxic relationship. You don’t know what to do. What is one thing you could do?

Something simple: look up toxic relationship and see if the definition feels like it applies to you.

Next, pay attention to the way your body feels.

Are you nervous, uncertain, confused, withdrawn, have a sinking feeling?

Pay attention to all these signals.

Then make a next decision.  Even if it is to journal about it–even just one sentence. That is still taking an action because you are committing words to paper.

That one small action will get the wheels turning and you will be able to take additional actions.

You may want to journal more, read more about destructive relationships, or speak to a counselor.

Major actions aren’t  necessary. Small ones work best especially when you are uncertain.

How Do You Know Things?

Monday, October 4th, 2010

How do you know what the right thing is for you to do?

What system do you use?

Do you feel the right thing in your gut? Do you hear it through conversations you have with others? Or do you hear it as a whisper upon awakening from sleep or when you’re in a relaxed state of mind?

Do you have a vision?

Do you get a hunch?

Once you know, what do you do with what you know?

Do you ponder, reflect, or do you act?

It can take me a good long while to know what the best thing is for me to do in a particular situation and once I know I usually give myself some time to savor the sense of relief I feel. I think yes! I get it–finally. My course becomes clear and I move forward.

This doesn’t mean from that point on it’s all smooth sailing but rather I know to stay the course because through all my deliberating I’ve determined the path I want to take.

So once you know, do you move forward with confidence? Do you trust what you know or do you second guess yourself?

Sometimes the easiest path which is more often than not the one with the least resistance, seems like the logical one to take.

But why? Why is easier thought to be better?

Is it because easy doesn’t require that we do harder things? Harder things sometimes make us uncomfortable because we get outside our comfort zone. Harder things are sometimes unsettling because other people in our lives don’t like it especially if these harder things disrupt the way they do things.

The only way we can know our best course of action in anything is to continue working toward resolution. We must challenge ourselves to understand what we don’t by seeking answers which we get by asking questions.

But what if solving a problem isn’t convenient or the timing is off, or there is too much going on at the present time. What happens to the thing we need to figure out?

If you choose to put your question, problem, dilemma on the back burner it’s pretty much a guarantee that the question will stay there with the flame hovering on low until something happens that causes it to ignite. When that happens the thing moves from the back burner to the front. Now you risk getting burned and once burned it’s so much more difficult to heal. In fact sometimes you can become burned to the point where your old self is beyond recognition.

So, how do you know things or perhaps the better question: When you know things do you act or do you push what you know back on the farthest burner until the flame ignites and immediate action is required?