Posts Tagged ‘heart’

Overly Grateful

Sunday, October 15th, 2017

Being grateful and appreciative toward others is in general a good way to be. Being overly grateful and communicating just how grateful you truly are is something else and can set you up for abuse.

We hear a lot about gratitude and even journaling about the people and things in life that we feel so grateful to have. Being grateful is something to strive for especially in a society where a strong sense of entitlement is actually becoming more and more common.

The thing is you need to watch just how much gratitude you put out there.

If someone does something special for you and your reaction to this is something like–no one has ever done this for me before or I am so grateful to you for going out of your way to do this for me or you shouldn’t have done this or thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for this kind gesture etc.

Own your gratitude and do show your appreciation but be No Contactmindful of the attention you receive from others. The consideration you give to yourself is as important if not more so than what you receive from another person.

An Arrow in Your Heart

Saturday, May 27th, 2017

No ContactIf someone comes along and shoots an arrow in your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart. Pema Chodron

The attention we need lies within ourselves. The attention we often give is to those others and situations outside ourselves.

We can never ever do anything to heal another person–that’s their job as it should be. We can only heal what is inside us, that’s our job and our right.

Broken Hearts

Sunday, April 9th, 2017

Broken hearts are not easy to mend which is why it is imperative that you take the best care you can of the one you’ve got.

New love interests will come into your life and promise you the sun moon and the stars but if they promise you all of that too soon pay attention to that because it is not a minor detail.

It is easy to make a promise when love is fresh and new…before the dust has settled in. Once it has you may notice backtracking of the sweet words delivered early on. Plug your ears if you have to so you don’t take those words too seriously. Promises made early at the height of passion are likely intended as sweet words only.

Keep your heart strong by encapsulating it with your protection. You are the only one who can truly do this job. Giving sole power to someone else to protect your heart is risky. You can love others and they can love you but you must provide the protection needed for this precious organ.

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The Prize

Saturday, January 23rd, 2016

When I was a kid I used to walk down to the neighborhood little store and buy treats. One of my favorites was a box of crackerjacks. I especially liked buying this candy because of the prize that I knew was somewhere in that box.

I knew there was a prize and it was coming.

It was the excitement of not having and then suddenly having.

Going to the fair and doing ring toss, darts, and the penny toss are still fun for me.

Getting an expected or unexpected something is gigantic bonus. Who in the world doesn’t need this–especially when the chips are down?

When all in life is going south just one small something is exactly enough.

It doesn’t need to be enormous like winning a lottery.

It doesn’t need to be fancy and expensive like jewelry or a new car.

The best prizes make us feel special and amazed all at the same time. We’re singled out for a moment and that is FANTASTIC!

When my children were small and either they or a neighbor child came to me with a flower–usually a dandelion–it absolutely made my day!

Once at one of my window treatment consults the son of my customer came up and handed me a drawing he’d made for me.

I loved it.

These are prizes–and they are wonderful.

The best is never the most expensive tremendous or stupendous.

It’s not the most mind-blowing and jaw-dropping either.

The best comes from the heart and it’s got soul written all over it.

I hope you have a prize moment today and if not today real soon. One that makes you immediately think–ah-ha! That’s it! Yes!

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When You’ve Got Something to Say…

Sunday, December 13th, 2015

When you’ve got something to say

Say it straight up.

If you dance around whatever

it is you’ll end up with

something watered down that

doesn’t really get to the heart

and soul of the subject.

If you can’t spit it out keep it to

yourself until you feel

you’ll burst or relieved you held

your tongue.

Once you’ve said your piece own and

accept it; don’t shy away from it feel

embarrassed or have regrets.

Timing isn’t everything it’s only half of it.

The other half is confidence

and the belief that you have the right to express your feelings.

Keep it clear keep it clean keep it respectful

And say it.

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Your Heart-Your Most Valuable Asset

Sunday, November 23rd, 2014

Your heart is your most valuable asset.

Treat it as such.

Be careful when giving it to others.

Don’t let anyone trample it.

Pay attention to the nudges your heart gives you–

and protect it when you know you’re getting

a nudge…

Show your heart some respect!

When it is in pain from being wounded by another

please don’t pretend that’s okay.

You need to give your heart time to heal.

After all it isn’t made of stone.

It beats 70 times a minute in your chest and when

it is tired or wounded it needs to rest.

Your heart is there for you, 24/7.

Take care of it so it can take care of you.

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A Happy Heart Beams

Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

A happy heart beams. A broken heart is hard to live with–breathing is difficult. Broken hearts are heavy making them difficult to carry around. Sometimes the heart is so heavy it’s impossible to move.

Guard your heart. Keep it beaming as best you can. When it beams your load is light not at all like the weight of a heavy heart.

Keep those around who smile upon your heart. Let go of those  who wound the heart over and over as the burden of having them around will weigh your heart down.

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Pulling Through to the Lighter Side

Saturday, June 8th, 2013

It’s difficult  to smile when you really just want to cry but it helps heal your heart and mind if you do. Turning a tear into a smile can lift you and keep your spirit from breaking.

As hard as it is, if you are blue and down, find something to do that brings you joy. Read a book, watch a tv show you know makes you smile, go to a movie, or play with your pet.  Remember that your child who loves you can’t wait to see your smile.

After you have a setback, suffer a loss, or receive bad news, do your best to allow time to pull through to the lighter side; let it happen.

Living Through the Questions

Monday, August 6th, 2012

Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, even without noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day. Letters to a young poet.

Rainer Maria Rilke

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart…pursue those.         Michael Nolan