Posts Tagged ‘gossip’


Saturday, May 26th, 2018

No ContactDo you know a whisperer? I had a conversation not too long ago with a friend who told me she doesn’t like to go into her dentist office even though she thinks the dentist is great because the receptionist staff whispers in the receptionist area.

I shrugged and said they probably need to keep quiet because of patient confidentiality.

She said no, she didn’t think that was it and said she’s observed that after a patient comes into the office to check in and then sits down in the waiting area the reception staff whispers among themselves about the patient.

I got to thinking about this and said you know maybe you should say something to the staff. And she said– she didn’t want to make a big deal out of it.

So here’s the thing:

Call it what you will but there are people who like to talk about other people period. There are some people who are not so subtle about it and do it no matter whether the person is with in earshot or not. They like it and they do it and that’s just the way it is. You can like it or not like it and it really doesn’t make any difference because they don’t care.

But here is the absolutely beautiful thing about gossip because when it comes right down to it when a person whispers–it is often gossip.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else says or doesn’t say.

It doesn’t matter who someone else is or isn’t being.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else does or doesn’t do.

The only thing that you or I or anyone else has any control over is ourselves. We have the amazing opportunity to take care of ourselves and what others do or say or who they are or aren’t has absolutely no bearing on us.

The worry about others is a wasted worry. Staying up at night or waking up at night worrying about what you think someone else is doing or saying or being is not in any way shape or form a matter that should hold you captive.

Others can whisper, shout, or scream and it has nothing to do with us.

Take charge, go out there and be you. You are the only person who can and it is your responsibility to do that. Others will either like it or they won’t and be glad that we all have the freedom to make that choice.

A Word to People Pleasers…

Saturday, August 10th, 2013

You will never please everyone all the time.

You will find that there are people who will misjudge you.

You will find that there are people who will misinterpret things you say and do.

You will find that there are people who speak ill of you to others.

There is not one thing you can do to change the mind of an individual who has misjudged you and refuses to speak to you.

Hold your head up and keep going.

Treat yourself with respect.

Treat others with respect.

Those who have misjudged you will either come around or they won’t. What they do or don’t do is their business, tend to your own business.

Live your life with dignity and grace and above all else do not allow yourself to be pushed around by others.





Sink or Soar

Friday, February 1st, 2013

I walked into a room the other day and immediately felt four eyes on me–and when I looked up, sure enough they were. I didn’t like it and for a brief moment felt self-conscious but switched that feeling off in about 10 seconds. It was none of my business what they were¬† saying so I let it go–fast!

If you catch yourself in a similar situation and wondering what are they saying about me, change your thinking quickly–in seconds, because the reality is it doesn’t matter.

You are in charge of your thoughts and feelings. It is your job to pick yourself up because in that moment you can sink or soar.

Sinking will cost you much more in the long run.

Make the choice to soar.




Thursday, July 26th, 2012

If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut.

Albert Einstein