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Aging and Relationships

Thursday, July 8th, 2010

I learn a lot working with the elderly. They teach me far more than anything I could teach them.

One big bonus in having close contact with this population is I get a glimpse of what the future holds as I get older. This doesn’t mean that I necessarily like what I see but it does force me to face the reality of aging and do my best to learn the from the lessons I’ve been taught. Through my observations and conversations with older individuals over 75 I’ve learned:

Those who still have their memories intact have much wisdom and knowledge if we take the time to listen.

Excessive worry when younger doesn’t help the aging mind.

Keeping the body strong while younger helps the aging body but excessive physical exertion seems to have the opposite effect.

A love of learning new things and an openness to learning new things throughout life is a definite plus.

Staying positive even when it takes much effort has long term benefits.

The elderly may be living longer but aren’t always happy about it. Losing independence dramatically decreases quality of life.

Meal time is often the most important time of the day and not just because of the food.

Visits from friends and relatives take on a whole new meaning.

Living life is about relationships and when you need them the most–they are often in short supply.

The telephone can be a big source of frustration as is any form of  gadgetry.

Many elderly people are great conversationalists and are also funny!

The comings and goings of children and grandchildren are very important!

If a loved one doesn’t remember that they saw you yesterday they still loved it while you were there.

The ability to problem solve will serve you well as you age.

You can have all the money in the world and it may make life more comfortable but it will never replace relationships.

If you have an elderly person in your life  you are fortunate. Tell them. Thank them. Seek them out. You do have time for them–make the time.

If you have an elderly person in your life with whom you can have a conversation–do it. Listen. Ask questions; pick their brain. They can tell you a lot–all you have to do is ask.

The quality of your relationships while younger will make or break you as you age.