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Give to Ourselves First

Friday, May 18th, 2018

No ContactThose of us who keep looking to the outside for our happiness and well being are always going to find disappointment and likely even abuse in our love relationships because there is no living person who can give to us what we must give to ourselves first.

Another person can be supportive of who we are and stand beside us but if we do not stand up for us first why would another person? We will get exactly the type of relationship partner that we are ready to receive and if what we’re ready for is someone who is always looking for someone outside themselves to fill and make them whole we will be a match with that person because we are looking for the same thing.

If we get involved in love relationships too quickly before we truly know the person we are setting up the end of the relationship right from the beginning. Abusers like quick starts as they are not patient people. They want what they want when they want it and they let you know quickly that they are running the show. If you fear confronting this opposition and keep quiet when you should be speaking up you are choosing to maintain the relationship rather than speaking your truth. The difficult conversations are vital to your health and well being.

So ask yourself, who is running the show? You must choose you! In the face of abuse what else are you going to do?

If you want to be in charge of your life and have loving relationships with people who also love themselves you must change the way you view relationships and yourself. There is no other way.

There are resources to help you. Follow this link to a resource where you may just find the help you

As always, you must be safe. If you are living in a destructive relationship do what you can for yourself while still in your current living situation.

Give Yourself Grace

Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

When you show a smile though inside you cry–

Give yourself grace

When your bank accounts low and your bills are high–

Give yourself grace

When dinner is late and the kids are crying–

Give yourself grace

When your mate is brooding and he thinks it’s your fault–

Give yourself grace

We give to others without batting an eye

We fear if we don’t we’ll be left high and dry

When we don’t give ourselves the gift of our grace

We’ll feel completely worn out by the end of the day

Life isn’t easy so don’t beat yourself up

Because when you do it’s a sign you’re giving up–on YOU!

You’re worth your own grace

It’s the one gift you and only you can give to yourself

This post is dedicated to my friend Gail who continues to teach me about giving myself grace.

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