Posts Tagged ‘future’

Burning Bridges

Sunday, November 13th, 2016

If you burn too many bridges you won’t have a board to stand on. Make sure the ones your burn brighten the way to your future rather than darken the path that lies ahead.

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Past Future and Present

Monday, July 11th, 2016

You can’t change the past

And it’s not wise to force the future.

You must be true to yourself in the present. What’s true for you might not jive

with what’s true for one or others but to lie to yourself and call anothers truth

your own puts a lock on a life of despair.

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If You Knew Alzheimer’s disease was in your future what would you do?

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

What would you do if Alzheimer’s Disease is in your future? Please read.

http://bit.ly/P7GCOZ

Avoid Cheaters/Cheating in the Future

Wednesday, July 25th, 2012

Once you’ve been cheated on you want to avoid cheaters and cheating at all costs. Cheating leaves a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach and you want no part of it.

Years later the physical feeling may go away but you still remember the sense of loss and violation.

The only surefire way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to never get involved with anyone in the future. Stay away from relationships altogether. Keep to yourself and lock your door.

Right?

Well isolation is always an option but not likely one you want to give serious consideration to.

The best way to avoid cheaters and cheating is to be aware.

Be aware of how you feel when in relationships.

Be aware of your questions.

Be aware of early affection.

Be aware of situations or circumstances that don’t seem quite right.

Be aware when you are accepting excuses.

Be aware of no shows and then thinking you must have got the details wrong.

Ask the hard or uncomfortable questions. Don’t think your questions are silly, stupid, or none of your business. If you are in a relationship and you have a question, ask it. You know the difference between prying in a brand new relationship and asking for an explanation in an established one.

Pay attention.

Pay attention to what you see, how you feel, how they act, what they say, how they say it, what isn’t said. Observe their body language and your own. Follow your gut instincts.

Pay attention to sudden disappearing acts and then…reappearing acts.

As you get clear about your expectations for yourself and your relationships  paying attention will become second nature.

You will only be fooled if you choose to be. Sweet words and long embraces are in the moment. Genuine feelings sincerity and love are developed over time.

 

 

On Meeting New People

Saturday, March 3rd, 2012

When it comes to meeting new people don’t worry so much about the impression you make. Think more about the opportunity and that no matter the outcome, you have another experience under your belt that becomes a reference point when you meet new people in the future.

Aging and Relationships

Thursday, July 8th, 2010

I learn a lot working with the elderly. They teach me far more than anything I could teach them.

One big bonus in having close contact with this population is I get a glimpse of what the future holds as I get older. This doesn’t mean that I necessarily like what I see but it does force me to face the reality of aging and do my best to learn the from the lessons I’ve been taught. Through my observations and conversations with older individuals over 75 I’ve learned:

Those who still have their memories intact have much wisdom and knowledge if we take the time to listen.

Excessive worry when younger doesn’t help the aging mind.

Keeping the body strong while younger helps the aging body but excessive physical exertion seems to have the opposite effect.

A love of learning new things and an openness to learning new things throughout life is a definite plus.

Staying positive even when it takes much effort has long term benefits.

The elderly may be living longer but aren’t always happy about it. Losing independence dramatically decreases quality of life.

Meal time is often the most important time of the day and not just because of the food.

Visits from friends and relatives take on a whole new meaning.

Living life is about relationships and when you need them the most–they are often in short supply.

The telephone can be a big source of frustration as is any form of  gadgetry.

Many elderly people are great conversationalists and are also funny!

The comings and goings of children and grandchildren are very important!

If a loved one doesn’t remember that they saw you yesterday they still loved it while you were there.

The ability to problem solve will serve you well as you age.

You can have all the money in the world and it may make life more comfortable but it will never replace relationships.

If you have an elderly person in your life  you are fortunate. Tell them. Thank them. Seek them out. You do have time for them–make the time.

If you have an elderly person in your life with whom you can have a conversation–do it. Listen. Ask questions; pick their brain. They can tell you a lot–all you have to do is ask.

The quality of your relationships while younger will make or break you as you age.