Posts Tagged ‘frustration’

What Needs Done First?

Saturday, April 15th, 2017

What needs done first? I asked myself this question at 4:30 this morning–way too early to be thinking about it but apparently my mind didn’t think so.

Eventually I did go back to sleep but not until I figured out why this question was gnawing at me so early in the morning.

There are usually too many things that need to be done on a daily basis and it’s not always easy to figure out what should be done first.

So the question becomes: What needs done first? What has got to be done first thing; right now; yesterday?

Is there one thing that’s eating at you and deep down you know if you just go and get it done you’ll be relieved?

In my case, I knew there were about twenty things but couldn’t put my finger on which one needed to be done first

until I realized that I couldn’t put my finger on it because I kept tripping over it on the floor!


It was a pile of stuff–papers. For at least a couple of months it was always there every single day.

And every single day I kept staring at it thinking yep, got to do something about it, but not now.

Later; always later…

So at 4:30 this morning that pile flashed in front of me and lo and behold, I figured out my what’s on first and today I finally took care of it.

It’s gone.


Now, I can move on to the second, third, fourth and the other things on that list of stuff that ‘s got to be done.

I’m relieved.

So what do you keep tripping over, running into, ignoring, the thing you know you’ve just got to do when you’ve got the time?

What needs done first for you?

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You Can Do Anything

Tuesday, October 27th, 2015

You can do anything you put your mind to once you decide

what it is you really want to do.

Finding what you really want  is the hard part only because

it seems that the possibilities are endless.

Life is more complicated because our world is more accessible

than it used to be.

We don’t need to settle but because of that we have a hard time

settling down.

If you’re overwhelmed when thinking, you’re thinking too hard.

Back up.

Start with the basics.

Think about your life and where you find pure enjoyment.

When thinking of a career path write down one hundred possibilities then whittle it down to one.

Cross out, erase, pay attention to what you immediately say no to when given two


Create a yes and no pile.

It’s never about what others think is best–ever.

Be realistic but be true to you.

It’s your journey and your life.

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Life Challenges

Saturday, October 24th, 2015

Life challenges often feel heavy and unbearable.

Keep focused on the journey.

To focus on the outcome makes the wait more difficult and can discourage you to

the point where you give up.

There are always new discoveries along the challenge path. These discoveries prepare you for each new step.

Stick with each new discovery one moment at a time.

Your feet may want you to hurry along. Tell them–not so fast. Make your feet wait for your mind to process the learning taking place in the here and now.

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Trying to Keep Your Cool

Sunday, May 31st, 2015

Trying to keep  your cool when life is not going smoothly is tough.

Maintaining your equilibrium when something is out of whack is one

of the most difficult things you can do.

Breathe through the disruptions; put a lid on the chaos.

Get through difficult days one minute at a time.

Physically pat yourself on the back.

Give yourself a big hug.

The most difficult client customer or situation in the world can wait.

You deserve calm and peace for a few moments before facing

difficult challenges.

Take care of you.

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Writer’s Block

Wednesday, May 20th, 2015

Writers are blocked when the pen hand and mind are not in sync.

The only way to solve the problem is to give the mind

relief then the thoughts will flow.

The only way to give the mind relief is through rest.

Rest gives the mind a whole new perspective and an

opportunity for the mind to think clearly.

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Tuesday, April 14th, 2015

Admitting vulnerability on the brink of defeat is a courageous thing to do. It’s the only way to achieve. Through feeling and accepting our own vulnerability we change and learn and develop into what we’ve hoped for and dreamed of.

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Sunday, March 15th, 2015

If you find  yourself stretched in so many different directions that  complete overwhelm sets in one of two things can happen…

You stretch to the point where you snap

or you decide to lighten the load your carrying.

Step back.

Walk away.

Whatever you’re doing will get done.

Maybe not perfectly or as expediently as you would like

but done it will get and in better mental shape  you will be.


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The Next Step

Thursday, February 26th, 2015

The next step is usually taken after a great deal of thought has been given.

The next step follows appreciation for what has been learned from that which is about to be left behind.

The next step doesn’t usually happen while entrenched in frustration for the day to day happenings of the current status quo.

The next step requires processing a ton of feelings good, bad, crazy, nutty, funny, miserable, hysterical, etc.

When all is said done and considered the next step just seems to be the natural thing to do and the flow seems right.

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When You Exit a Relationship

Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Even though you leave a partner, when you exit the relationship there is a void to fill and it can take a long while to recover.  Whether the relationship was a healthy or destructive one the feeling of love for this person stays with you.

Over time the sorrow pain anger and frustration of having been in this relationship and having it end will soften. With the right attitude you will move forward with strong insight from having been part of it.

What determines growth is acceptance of the circumstances that led you to leave. You knew and still know that in order to live a healthy happy life you had to leave a person that you truly loved.

The victory is that you loved. Each of us who have been moved by love know that it leaves traces on the heart. Memories of love stay with us and long after the fire burns out marks are left as proof that loved existed. To deny that love existed keeps you in denial. Accepting that love was there helps you move forward.

Many times the end of one love prepares for a new healthier one;  a new door opens that may not have been available to you otherwise.

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Too Hard? Can’t Take it Anymore?

Tuesday, December 10th, 2013

The past two months have been the hardest I’ve had since I left my past job  and went into business as a window treatment franchisee. Last week I said the words out loud that I’d hoped I would never feel the need to say–

This is way too hard; I can’t take it anymore!

The phones and doorbell were endlessly ringing, there were many customer consultations, there were employee issues, product issues, dog barking issues (in response to the ringing doorbell), family illness and I could feel my stress level climbing.

Before October I’d felt pretty good about the way I was handling things. There were times when it would get busy but I was able to maintain. Now things were different. It was busy, very busy and there were new challenges, new types of installations, interviewing, hiring, and it was all coming down at the same time.

I wasn’t getting personal stuff done like it needed to be. Relatively simple tasks like getting the mail and going to the store became big challenges. Walking the dog was either a block up the street or not at all.