Posts Tagged ‘forward’

Locked Up or Locked Out?

Sunday, February 26th, 2017

No Contact Warning, if you are offended by talk of breastfeeding you may want to move past the first few paragraphs.

Have you ever been locked up or locked out?

The other day I had a window treatment consultation with a customer who is a lactation consultant and it got it me to thinking of the experience I’d had with my last son who nursed for an extended period of time.
For the most part it was a great breastfeeding experience but there was a point when I got a breast infection which was a truly painful experience.

There was not much I could do to relieve the pain–my son’s nursing provided some relief but it wasn’t enough and I was miserable. I felt locked up. I didn’t have the right key to break the stronghold the infection had on me and the only way to get long lasting relief was to take an antibiotic. Once I got on the medication I found relief and ceased the locked up feeling I’d had.

Being locked up in the case of a breast infection is painful but there are other ways we get locked up or locked out, for instance:

Have you ever had a case of the nerves to the point where your words are locked up? I mean you may get some croaking verbalization to come out but it is truly difficult and silence is a better alternative. I had this happen once in an interview situation and no amount of water or deep breathing brought relief. I somehow croaked my way through but it was rough….

Have you ever been locked out of your car house or apartment? Locked out of your place of business or unable to open a combination lock?

Last week I couldn’t get my garage door to open. I entered the code, no luck, nothing. The back gate lock wouldn’t budge due to very cold conditions and swelling of the wood. I couldn’t get the front door to open because the deadbolt has a mind of it’s own and at that particular time no amount of leaning in or pulling out to get it to open would work.

Then out of the blue, the garage door opened on it’s own–must have been a radio frequency issue–but I was finally able to get inside.

Being closed out is tough and when it happens it affects us mightily. We can be locked out of jobs, promotions, all sorts of opportunities because there is something we need and don’t have or some intangible that we are missing. In the case of an entry to a house, vehicle, gate, etc we can get the right key or code and then relief is ours.

In the case of a job, promotion, or desired opportunity, being locked out could last awhile.

If it’s possible to get what we need like a license, certification, award, etc. we know what we need to do.

But it may be that this one thing we need to unlock our locked out conditions may not come to us.

Alexander Graham Bell said it best:

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”

Feeling locked up whether it be breastfeeding, your words, incarceration, or another way, relief comes through a process–whatever that may be…

If you are locked out, move forward, find a way to appreciate the door standing in front of you that is open.

Burning Bridges

Sunday, November 13th, 2016

If you burn too many bridges you won’t have a board to stand on. Make sure the ones your burn brighten the way to your future rather than darken the path that lies ahead.

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Advocate for Yourself!

Sunday, September 25th, 2016

No ContactThere is no one who will advocate for you like you can for yourself.

You can have the most loving family, friends, spouse, children, co-workers, neighbors, etc. but in the end they can not do for you what you can do for yourself.

If you feel there is something you need or must have, a goal or an achievement that is important to you; get as much information as you can and seek help where you need it.

You won’t win every time on your journey. There will be setbacks missteps and mistakes.

When in sales I used to get frustrated with myself when I made mistakes. There were times when I made one mistake-only one and it cost me a sale. Forgetting one step can be costly in anything but it’s not the end of the world.

If you face frustrations on your journey know that others face frustrations too. We all have our struggles no matter what path we’re on.

I used to think there must be one thing I was missing and if I knew what that one thing was my struggles would disappear. I would suddenly know exactly what to do and everything would fall into place in each situation I faced.

No such luck. It isn’t that way for any of us. There is no pat answer to every problem though there are aha moments when we have clarity about something which up to that point had mystified us.

You know your journey better than anyone else does.

You also know when you can push yourself and when you need to pull back though it is much easier to pull back on a regular basis…much harder to go forward when what lies ahead is unknown.

How about you? What are you struggling with?  How are you going to move forward?

How will you advocate for yourself?

Hang On!

Sunday, January 26th, 2014

When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.

–Franklin D. Roosevelt

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Drive Forward

Sunday, September 15th, 2013

Have the courage

to hold your head up

and drive forward

despite the obstacles that

try to kick you to the curb.

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