Posts Tagged ‘find’

Find Peace Within

Sunday, January 22nd, 2017

There are times when life as we know it seems to crumble all around us. During these times we are searching, fearing, and not really knowing what the right thing to do is. Take a deep breath let it out and
Find peace within.

When you feel others don’t understand misunderstand or seem altogether indifferent toward you, remember the value you have and
Find peace within.

If you have a project you know needs to get done but you are too tired or too anxious or you know you don’t have it in you to give it what it needs right now don’t beat yourself up but instead take a break as it will still be around later and
Find peace within.

When you find yourself way too critical of the way you look, your intelligence, your abilities, or in some other way feel inadequate and don’t measure up, give yourself a long strong hug, accept the gifts you bring to the table and
Find peace within.

When you fear the worst will happen no matter what that worst is, avoid panic, seek counsel, take a deep breath, let it out, pull together all the strength you can muster and
Find peace within.

When you are not invited
When you are turned down
When you are left alone
When you are forgotten
Or when you are ignored

Remember that you have a powerful presence deep within yourself. There is great peace within you and you alone create it. No one can take that from you.

Take pride in you as you are special despite whatever circumstances you face and that surround you.

Remember the peace that lies within you. It is the most precious gift you can give
to you.

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When You Can’t Find Help

Thursday, January 28th, 2016

When you can’t find help keep searching as you just haven’t found the solution
yet.

Don’t give up!

There is a plan of action out there that will help you.

Be persistent. It takes time–lots of time to pull together plans, moves, actions and solutions in order to
modify what you’re currently doing.

Sometimes we spend so much time seeking out what we feel is the only solution that we miss good alternatives.

Sometimes we give up too soon because we lose patience with the course we’re on. We think if it were going to work it would have done so by now.

I’ve been at a convention this week with fellow window treatment business owners. I am amazed by stories of resilence. People who have stayed the course even through an economic downtown when as far as the eye could see the future looked bleak.

They found help & solutions through trial and error and things worked out.

Being flexible when seeking help especially when you believe options are limited can turn the tide.

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Lopsided Power Distribution

Thursday, December 24th, 2015

When you’re in a relationship where the distribution of power is lopsided, the person with little or no power becomes even more powerless by silencing their own voice.

You don’t intentionally stop talking. There is a freeze that happens. This freeze causes you to have great difficulty gathering your thoughts and speaking when in communication with a person whom you see as having more power than you. Remember–they have more power because you have turned your power over to them.

When trying to communicate  with a person who you have given your power to:

Take a breath and gather your thoughts.

Make eye contact.

Say what you need to say; keep it brief.

The more you speak up; the more confident you will become.

People who have the power are not typically good listeners. They will look down, walk away, do something else, but not usually interested in listening to anyone other than themselves.

Don’t chase after them to talk to them. Chasing is like begging–begging for time and attention.

As you speak up and reclaim your power you will decide if it is worth your time to communicate with this person.

You are responsible for your life and the direction it will take.

If you are not safe to have a conversation with the other person and reclaim your power please seek help.

http://www.thehotline.org/

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Finding the Right Wrong Person

Saturday, June 14th, 2014

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.

Let our scars fall in love.”

— Galway Kinnell

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Search

Friday, April 18th, 2014

I think you travel to search and you come back home to find yourself there.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

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Lost in a Relationship

Wednesday, March 26th, 2014

Has there been a time when you became so enamored with a new dating partner that your own life started to lose significance? Maybe you were lost inside that relationship.

We should feel good inside a relationship; it enhances an already full life. If we’re in a relationship where the other person takes top billing and prefers we take part in what they like and forget what we like, our life starts to lose relevance. Before we know it we start to slip away. It’s like we slowly become a shadow of our former self and need to be in the presence of this other person in order to feel alive. It can take a long time to snap out of the trance we’re in.

After my divorce I became involved in a relationship where I did feel lost. I hadn’t spent enough time being a single before I started dating so it was not a stretch for me to become involved in a relationship with a larger than life personality type. I let go of my own self-discovery and instead focused all my energy on this new person his interests, his wants, his needs. The result was that I lost ground figuring out who I was and taking care of my own needs. I found myself in a familiar place where I allowed someone else to orchestrate my life. It was a role I was used to but not the right place for me to be. His hobbies and interests definitely seemed more exciting than mine. His views and opinions seemed to make more sense than mine. Over time I convinced myself that I needed to lean on him in order to live my life.

Eventually I realized I needed to get myself back on track by determining my own boundaries, sticking with them, and communicating them to others.

Have you ever felt lost inside a relationship? What did you do?

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