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A Quick Take on Self Improvement

Friday, August 1st, 2014

I recently received a comment from a reader who was looking for information about how to improve her self–quickly.

I don’t know if it’s truly possible to quickly improve how you view yourself but I do believe it’s possible to begin the improvement immediately.

The way we view who we are largely depends on the way we think about ourselves. For example, if I want to be a great cook I can begin right away to affirm to myself and to the world that I’m a great cook. I can think it, I can write it down, and I can post little notes all over my house telling me what a great cook I am. I can also tell whoever will listen just how great I am in the kitchen and if I set my mind to it, I might start to believe it.

But most likely, the positive regards I have for my cooking won’t last if deep down, I don’t believe–truly believe I’m a great cook. I can say the words and write them down but my self- doubt will eventually override all my verbal and written messages if I don’t believe it.

So then what do I do if I want to be a great cook quickly? There’s really only one way. I’ve got to take action and lots of it. I need to study recipes and make dishes that look and taste delicious. I’ve also got to share the food I prepare with friends and family so that other people can judge for themselves how well I’m doing.

And little by little with each success and failure I get better and gain confidence in my ability to cook.

I won’t become great overnight but I will begin to believe in my ability to become great and when I combine that with action I’ve got an excellent chance of achieving my goal.

I believe it works the same with the way we view ourselves as people. If you want to feel better about yourself–treat yourself better.

Respect your mind, body, and spirit by taking more time to listen to your inner thinking. Don’t discount what you think just because it’s different than what someone else thinks.

If you have a goal, believe in your ability to achieve that goal not just in the beginning when you first make up your mind but also down the road when things get much harder. Get information, ask questions, step outside your comfort zone because when you do this you are taking action and moving toward your goal. And above everything else, make sure you have verbalized to yourself and written down exactly what your expectations are in terms of your change.

If you don’t know exactly what you want to change–you won’t.

So if you decide you want to be a better employee, a stronger parent, a more considerate spouse, a smarter decision maker–whatever the goal is own it by writing it down and verbalizing it.

And when you face obstacles don’t decide to throw in the towel because it becomes too hard. Face the obstacles because overcoming them puts you closer to reaching your goal.

So is it possible to improve yourself quickly?

Can you change yourself in seven days or less?

Not completely.

But you can absolutely decide to improve you right away.

And from the moment you decide to, you will change if you’re committed to making that change. Each day you will see yourself a little different and when you see yourself slip–you’ll catch yourself and remember your goal.

It won’t be painless but it will become more natural because each day you are making small adjustments that move you toward the person you want to be.

 

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On Being Liked & What Mom Thinks

Sunday, July 20th, 2014

If you are living your life like the rest of us you probably hope that most of the people you are close to in your life actually like you. Everyone else – you’re not too bothered by whether they like you or not.

The thing you may be more concerned about with casual acquaintances is their approval rating. How do you rank with them in terms of the decisions you make, the way you do your work, etc.

None of us may want to admit it; but walking around in daily life, we look for approval. Maybe not so much that we’ve got to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the things we do are acceptable but more that what we do is in line with what other people would do if they were in our shoes.

I was talking with my mom awhile back and she let me know that she thinksĀ  my life is too fast paced and that I will wear myself out in no time at all.

I would like to say that what she had to say didn’t bother me but the reality is this is mom and what she says makes a difference to me.

So I told her that she’s right, my life is fast paced because I haveĀ  a new business (now with it two years–still new) and have to learn lots of new information and remember what I already know. She’s saying okay, I see, uh huh. But I know she still thinks I’m too busy.

I took note of what she said and will think about things I can do to give me more time to relax.

After all, this is mom talking. She may not like my chosen career (she says she wouldn’t work in sales on a bet) and she may not completely understand why I’m doing it but she respects that I made the decision to do it.

On wanting to be liked–I’d rather be liked than hated but when it gets right down to it, being liked by others is nice but I’d rather be liked by me and those close to me which Mom is among those at the top of that list.

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