Posts Tagged ‘family relationships’

Talk is Not Cheap in Relationships

Wednesday, December 14th, 2011

You’ve most likely heard the expression talk is cheap. It definitely doesn’t apply to relationships. If anything it’s a commodity. Without talk a relationship is destined to die.

Sometimes, especially in the beginning, talk is hard to come by. People feel their way as they create conversation in order to find common ground. Some conversations last just a few seconds, simple words, light and breezy. Others can be meatier and last hours.

Talk is good.  Not necessarily idle chatter but sincere communication heals our souls and keeps the brain active and stimulated.

Talking about common interests, activities, current events, ideas, travel, dreams, goals, and plans usually put people at ease. When it gets right down to it, all of our relationships are a series of conversations.

Great relationships don’t just happen–they’re created and one of the primary ingredients is talk. Talk is wonderful music to the ears. It has great value. It’s like physical exercise—the more you do the better you get and the more you look forward to it.

If you find it tough to involve another person in conversation, keep trying. As the conversation starts to flow,  you’ll become more comfortable and start looking forward to it. If you run across someone who seems turned off by a meaningful exchange take note of it. If you are dating and conversation comes hard a safe bet is to ask the other person about themselves–most people love to talk about their views activities hobbies etc. Guard against overwhelming your partner. Too much question and answer conversation for hours at a time is too much to deal with. Shorter meaningful conversations have a greater impact over time.

To keep a relationship going keep the lines of communication flowing.

Youth Homelessness

Sunday, October 17th, 2010

Youth homelessness will be the subject in a documentary:  http://bit.ly/dx0QaP

The Role of Dad in a Child’s Life

Saturday, August 14th, 2010

How big a role do you believe Dad’s play in the lives of children?

I believe that children need a consistent male in their lives whether it be their biological or adoptive father, an uncle, stepfather or another relative. It’s important. What do you think?

See what you think of this: http://bit.ly/dcnGUX

Wednesday, July 28th, 2010

The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes.

Destructive Relationships & Child Behavior Problems in School

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

Families can be a source of support or a source of stress for children entering school. The following article sheds some light on the subject: http://bit.ly/cjkF0F

Giving

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

No one has ever become poor by giving.  Anne Frank

Sleeping In

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

I realized the other day there are most likely opportunities I’ve missed because I love to sleep in. I figure that all week long I’ve woke to an alarm at a totally unreasonable hour so like to reward myself with more sleep at least one weekend morning.

This is usually a good thing–we’ve got to rest when we need it. Other times it’s more of a problem as when there is something we’ve been invited to do that might actually bring us joy but decide not to because it’s too early and we want more sleep. We all know whether we’re sleeping to avoid something out of anxiety or because we really do need more rest.

Sleeping in during the work week can really be problematic…say you’ve overslept and don’t get to work on time. How many times in a month can a person show up late before it becomes noticeable from an employer’s perspective? Once is forgiven, occasionally maybe, once or more a week–most likely a pattern is noticed… (more…)

Red Flags From Our Kids

Saturday, December 26th, 2009

Have you ever had a comment directed toward you from your son or daughter and thought—if my partner or spouse talked to me like that I’d never stand for it!

Yet sometimes we do stand for it from our children. Recently I had to take action regarding comments made to me by my son. I knew as soon as he made them I wouldn’t let those comments go. I knew because the sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach told me not to.

I suppose I could have ignored my gut reaction but knew if I did I wouldn’t be doing him or me any favors so instead decided to attack those comments. I confronted my son and there were consequences not because I wanted to wield my power over him but because I knew without consequences, both he and I would have felt there should have been. As parents there are things we let go of because after all we need to choose our battles wisely; this wasn’t one of them. Some day he will be a relationship partner to someone and part of my job is to teach him how to be a respectful individual.

So, I didn’t ignore this red flag from my son. It might have been easier in the short run to overlook it but definitely not in the long run. I thought what if a partner or spouse talked to me like that? What would I do? Would I disregard the sinking feeling? Pretend it didn’t matter? Not the choice to make with a partner nor with my son.

Definitely better to pay attention to those red flags…no matter where they come from.