Posts Tagged ‘failure’

Second Guess Yourself

Thursday, October 12th, 2017

You’ve decided on a goal, something you want to do or be. You’re excited and have done your due diligence and are confident enough to move forward. Then something happens, you become discouraged and start to second guess yourself.

It could be something small like a look or gesture from someone else. It could be a little bigger like another person telling you your idea won’t work or that there are too many others who have tried and failed. It could be something bigger like a test failure or failure to get a job interview.

It could be something much bigger like a financial setback or denial of a loan or rejected by a school program or employer.

It could be anything.

Just because you have a setback doesn’t mean your original plan was fraught with errors and it definitely doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means that following the path you’ve chosen is challenging and hard work.

Now is where it gets interesting. It’s time to buckle down and problem solve. There are ways to solve the problem that is currently standing in your way. Think of at least five ways to solve it. Map it out. Talk it out. Get the opinion of someone you trust who won’t discourage you.

Don’t give up!

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To Second Guess

Wednesday, October 12th, 2016

You’ve decided on a goal, something you want to do or be. You’re excited and have done your due diligence and are confident enough to move forward. Then something happens, you become discouraged and start to second guess yourself.

It could be something small like a look or gesture from someone else. It could be a little bigger like another person telling you your idea won’t work or that there are too many others who have tried and failed. It could be something bigger like a test failure or failure to get a job interview.

It could be something much bigger like a financial setback or denial of a loan or rejected by a school program or employer.

It could be anything.

Just because you have a setback doesn’t mean your original plan was fraught with errors and it definitely doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means that following the path you’ve chosen is challenging and hard work.

Now is where it gets interesting. It’s time to buckle down and problem solve. There are ways to solve the problem that is currently standing in your way. Think of at least five ways to solve it. Map it out. Talk it out. Get the opinion of someone you trust who won’t discourage you.

Don’t give up!

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A Foot In the Door

Friday, January 15th, 2016

Getting a foot in the door is one thing.

Keeping a foot inside that door is something else entirely.

How do you do it?

Delicately and keeping your effort going in a

positive direction.

Take each step respectfully.

It’s not the time to beat the door down and plow forward but rather to ask for a first step one more and then…another.

The idea is to prevent the door from closing so the conversation can continue.

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Failure is Stepping Stone to Success

Sunday, November 1st, 2015

Failure is not our enemy, it is the stepping stone we must take to find success.

If you fall in the water after landing on failure get back up dripping wet and keep going.

Failure helps us find the next landing spot which might be more failure but it is likely that success is hidden just beneath the surface inside that failure.

How will you ever find that precious gem called success if you don’t look inside?

Don’t run away from failure.

Sit with it for awhile.

Face it.

Look it straight in the eye.

Success is in there right beneath the surface you’ve just got to stick around long enough to see it.

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Failure is Not Our Enemy

Monday, August 17th, 2015

Failure is not our enemy, it is the stepping stone we must take to find success.

If you fall in the water after landing on failure get back up dripping wet and keep going.

Failure helps us find the next landing spot which might be more failure but it is likely that success is hidden just beneath the surface of that failure.

How will you ever find that precious gem called success if you don’t look inside?

Don’t run away from failure.

Sit with it for awhile.

Face it.

Look it straight in the eye.

Success is in there right beneath the surface you’ve just got to stick around long enough to see it.

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Success Hidden In Failure

Saturday, December 6th, 2014

Failure is not our enemy, it is the stepping stone we must take to find success.

If you fall in the water after landing on failure get back up dripping wet and keep going.

Failure helps us find the next landing spot which might be more failure but it is likely that success is hidden just beneath the surface inside that failure.

How will you ever find that precious gem called success if you don’t look inside?

Don’t run away from failure.

Sit with it for awhile.

Face it.

Look it straight in the eye.

Success is in there right beneath the surface you’ve just got to stick around long enough to see it.

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Assume Success!

Friday, November 15th, 2013

Do yourself a favor and assume that with hard work, drive, determination, and motivation you will be successful in any new endeavor you choose.

If you fail to plan for success you are certain to fail in whatever you choose.

There is just a tiny difference between success and failure and it all boils down to preparation.

If you are not prepared for success what will you do when the pieces start to fit into place and business, work, opportunity comes your way? I will tell you what will happen–an avalanche with you right at the bottom trying to dig your way out!

If instead, you prepare for a positive outcome you will have a much smoother ride without fear of getting buried due to lack of planning.

Sometimes it is hard to imagine that we will succeed so instead choose to believe we will fail so we won’t be disappointed.

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Failure

Tuesday, October 15th, 2013

Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, “I have failed three times,” and what happens when he says, “I am a failure.”

–S.I. Hayakawa

Overachievers in Relationships

Friday, March 22nd, 2013

Overachievers have a very hard time with mediocrity. They don’t know how to be average.

A few years back I was taking classes to keep my teaching license active. I was taking these classes summer term while working full time and had made up my mind before the classes started that I was going to do C level work because to try and give maximum effort would be too hard on me.

So I started three online classes and deliberately down scaled my effort in each one. By the second week of the term I had my first set of grades in two classes and had earned a D in both.  I couldn’t believe it! I was giving what I thought was an average effort but evidently my average effort was less than adequate. By the end of that week I got my grade in the third class which ended up being a C-. I decided there wasn’t enough time to figure out how to do average work so went back to giving my usual effort which landed me A’s in all three classes.

For those of us who are habitual overachievers life can be tricky because overachievement isn’t just about what we do in school or at work–it crosses over into our personal lives including our relationships. We are compelled to give our best effort but what is the price we pay for doing so?

We try hard–sometimes too hard to make relationships work. Maybe we push ourselves, the other person, our children, or circumstances just to keep relationships going even when there is a nagging feeling something’s just not right.

Maybe we see failure as something to be avoided at all costs or simply feel that we must try harder because there is something we don’t know yet and once we do know everything will work out. We might even allow ourselves and/or are children to be put into questionable or even dangerous situations just to keep a relationship alive.

It gets to the point where it’s no longer a question of overachieving, it’s a question of what is the most reasonable and sanest thing we can do for ourselves and our families.

None of us should stay in destructive relationships because we feel leaving means we’ve failed. Leaving really means we are seeking health and wellness.

When we rush into relationships or try too hard to make bad relationships work out we’re often trying to create loving relationships all by ourselves. The other person either isn’t interested or not capable of the same effort.

When we can see that what we’ve got is not working it’s best to follow our gut face it and move on. If we are looking to achieve why not put maximum effort toward learning about ourselves–who we are, what we want, and how we want to live our lives.

When we face life head on without a unhealthy relationship dragging us down we create openings for opportunity. When we take time to stand on our own and learn to appreciate our strengths we will in turn seek people who appreciate who we are and all we have to offer.

 

 

For Every Failure…

Thursday, July 12th, 2012

For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.  –Mary Kay Ash