Posts Tagged ‘employer’

Walking a Tightrope

Wednesday, November 25th, 2015

The relationships we have in our workplace are part of the employment package and relating to our employer and co-workers can be a lot like walking a tightrope. These are relationships we most likely wouldn’t likely have if it weren’t for our job.

Our co-workers may be good at what they do and we may respect that about them but they may also be annoying or manipulative, underhanded, schemers or in some other way nearly impossible to relate to in a normal way.

If we’re too nice we get squashed. If we don’t recognize their achievements we get the cold shoulder. If we don’t go along with their humor we’re made to feel as if we have no sense of humor.

We’re damned if we do and we’re damned if we don’t.

At 3am you don’t want to be restless and wide awake because you are thinking about who is going to say what to you or what you’re going to have to put up with once you walk through that door…

So what do you do to continue working  and still meet your own needs? The best course of action might be to envision yourself walking your own personal tightrope.

Imagine your on that tightrope.

Watch your balance once you first walk through the door. Stay steady until you take that last step out the door at the end of the day.

Each day you get on the tightrope be gentle with your take off and with your last step onto the safety pad once you’re out the door. Be deliberate with the steps you take in between. The last thing you want to do is fall off the rope during the course of the day as falling off is a pain since you’ve got to work your way back up ¬†the rope. Enough falls and you could very well be out of a job

If you’ve maintained your balance you can take a Deep Sigh of Relief.

Do your best to go about your business and show your employer and co-workers the same respect you want them to show you. Maintain a sense of calm so you can sleep at night as your sleep is the best you can give yourself when it comes to dealing with a difficult workplace environment.

Know that you’re not the only one walking the tightrope. Millions do it every day.

Good balance be with you.

Note: Be aware that there is a difference between difficult co-workers and outright abuse. Nip an abusive situation in the bud.

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Delivering Bad News

Monday, September 10th, 2012

Delivering bad news is never something we can’t wait to do and I don’t mean news re: the death of a loved one or re: illness. The type of bad news I’m referring to is the type where people lose the opportunity to benefit or gain in some way. This might be the loss of a new job, project, manager, client. It might be the loss of a promotion, money gifts, awards, government benefits, tenancy, property or another tangible. It might also be the loss of a relationship.

It’s hard to be the one whether professionally or personally who tells another person they’re not going to get something they want or that you no longer want the other person in your life. Being on the receiving end of this type of news can be devastating but what is worse is not getting the news first hand from the person who should be responsible for giving it.

Say you’re in a relationship and your partner just disappears. You receive no warning, no goodbye no nice knowing you, they’re just gone. You wonder and maybe imagine all sorts of things happened. You look for them or make countless phone calls but in the end you’re left with more than a few unknowns. (more…)