Posts Tagged ‘doors’

Where You Should Be & Door Knocking

Sunday, August 28th, 2016

No ContactHave you ever wondered if where you are is where you should be?

I mean, we can wonder about everything we do and the decisions we make as it relates to us and the truth is we’ll probably never know for sure if we’ve got it all exactly right. So if we weren’t where we are now, where else would we be? What would we do? Who would be in our lives? What would life look like?

We all have times when we question our direction. Yet if we are spiritual (and that is certainly different for everyone) have faith in that spirituality and are moving forward by living life in a way we feel good about, we’re most definitely on a positive path.

If I were homeless, with no means of support, no friends or family near by—I would have serious doubts about whether or not I was in the right place. In fact I’d make a point of doing whatever I could to change my situation by coming up with a plan and working on it daily.

There have been times in my life when I’ve faced setbacks and have struggled economically, emotionally, and spiritually. Each time has been frustrating primarily because I didn’t know for sure if the smart move was to stay on the current path or choose a different one.

Sometimes we are fearful or uncertain no matter what we do so the goal becomes to move forward daily day by gathering information setting goals and eventually getting our nerve up to knock on a few doors. We might get to the first one and it slams shut. That’s okay, we just try another one. If we get the same result we continue to try again and again and again.

Some decide it’s too discouraging so abandon knocking on any more doors. Others keep trudging on. Not giving up is the American way, right? Sure staying the course despite rejection builds character yet at some point it’s a good idea to step back and consider whether it’s possible we’re trying to open the wrong doors. (more…)

Being Where You’re Supposed to be and Knocking on Doors

Friday, May 18th, 2012

Have you ever wondered if where you are is where you should be?

I mean, we can wonder about everything we do and the decisions we make as it relates to us and the truth is we’ll probably never know for sure if we’ve got it all exactly right. So if we weren’t where we are now, where else would we be? What would we do? Who would be in our lives? What would life look like?

We all have times when we question our direction. Yet if we are spiritual (and that is certainly different for everyone) have faith in that spirituality and are moving forward by living life in a way we feel good about, we’re most definitely on a positive path.

If I were homeless, with no means of support, no friends or family near by—I would have serious doubts about whether or not I was in the right place. In fact I’d make a point of doing whatever I could to change my situation by coming up with a plan and working on it daily.

There have been times in my life when I’ve faced setbacks and have struggled economically, emotionally, and spiritually. Each time has been frustrating primarily because I didn’t know for sure if the smart move was to stay on my current path or choose a different one.

Sometimes we are fearful or uncertain no matter what we do. The goal at this point is to move forward every single day by gathering information setting goals and eventually getting our nerve up to knock on a few doors. We might get to the first one and it slams in our face. That’s okay, we just try another one. If we get the same result we continue to try again and again and again.

Some decide it’s too discouraging so abandon knocking on any more doors. Others keep trudging on. Not giving up is the American way, right? Sure staying the course despite rejection builds character yet at some point it’s a good idea to step back and consider whether it’s possible we’re trying to open the wrong doors. (more…)

When One Door Closes Find Another Door

Monday, April 11th, 2011

Doors do close.

Sometimes we take action to close them ourselves, other times we’re forced out as the door slams shut.

When the decision isn’t ours, we’re  shocked, outraged, or bewildered.

We’re likely confused and may feel numb.

It can be gut wrenching.

If you’ve experienced the loss of an opportunity, a job, a friendship, or a relationship ends, you know the feeling.

What do you do about it?

No matter what your loss, process it. We’ve got to own our losses. That doesn’t mean you obsess over and devote 24/7 thinking about it or every conversation you have addresses it.

But in order to move on you’ve got to spend some time examining the loss because if you don’t you face a repeat.

Who wants to repeat a nightmare? Who wants to go back in time and learn the same lesson over and over and over again?

So process your loss, breathe it in; breathe it out. Take small steps away from that shut door. Write, read, talk, listen, think, let it all gel. Be very very nice to you. That means don’t skip meals, get rest, smile, spend time with people who love you.

And then when the timing feels right, turn around as you back away from the closed door and look for a new one.

You may try a few that don’t feel right and you decide not to stay. That’s a good thing because you’re being selective. Finding doors is not as difficult as figuring out which ones you want to walk through and stay awhile.

Be patient.

Give yourself time.

If one door doesn’t feel right try another one. Stay positive and be good to you.