Posts Tagged ‘difficult’

Trust Yourself First

Sunday, July 9th, 2017

Trust yourself first.

This is often a big struggle if you have been harshly criticized throughout life for decisions you have made. It is definitely best to trust yourself even when you have had it ingrained to doubt yourself. Establishing trust in self takes courage and compassion so cut yourself some slack in your thinking about the decisions you make. Just writing this post has brought to light how much I struggle with this. I find that trusting me is a lot like using my body’s core when exercising. I have to think about it every single time because engaging those muscles doesn’t come naturally.

Engaging trust in self is similar. We’ve got to think about the decisions we’re making and trust that we know what we’re doing.

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship including the one you have with yourself. When you trust yourself it increases your confidence making it easier to make decisions and reduce your stress.

There are times especially after making a mistake or after someone criticizes you when it can feel like you can’t trust yourself to make any decision because you fear making the wrong one again. Yet the more decisions you make the more confidence you’ll have.

Here are some tips I found to help.

Be Yourself

If you fear what others think about you or that they will judge your decisions negatively you might think you should act like a different person. Other people will often sense this and some will take advantage of you if they can tell you don’t have a strong sense of self. Stick with you–you’re all you’ve got.

Set Attainable Goals

Goals are good. If however the goals are set too high we likely can’t reach them and give up early on. Small goals that inch us toward our main goal will keep us on a more realistic pace.

Be Kind to You

We know how to be kind to others but loving ourselves unconditionally is easier said than done. Keep a close eye on your inner voice. Does it tell you off regularly or is it kind? When you can love yourself unconditionally you can trust yourself unconditionally. Let your inner voice know you won’t do everything perfectly and that’s okay.

Spend Time with Yourself

If you distract yourself with busyness all day you will miss the opportunity to get to know yourself better. It doesn’t take much time to stop take some deep breaths and stay in the moment.

Believe in Yourself

Believe wholeheartedly in yourself even if there are days when it feels like you’re faking the belief.

 

 

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Life Challenges

Saturday, October 24th, 2015

Life challenges often feel heavy and unbearable.

Keep focused on the journey.

To focus on the outcome makes the wait more difficult and can discourage you to

the point where you give up.

There are always new discoveries along the challenge path. These discoveries prepare you for each new step.

Stick with each new discovery one moment at a time.

Your feet may want you to hurry along. Tell them–not so fast. Make your feet wait for your mind to process the learning taking place in the here and now.

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Our Best Teachers

Sunday, March 16th, 2014

The difficult people in our lives are some of our best teachers.

We don’t have to like them.

We surely don’t have to keep them around.

But upon their exit we will know we’ve learned.

Once they’re gone it’s up to us to remember the lessons we were taught so well that we never need a refresher course.

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Stand Up for You and Your Family

Saturday, July 20th, 2013

No ContactIf someone you’re close to namely a parent or other relative is in the habit of making negative remarks about you or your children be as objective as you can about whatever they say but stand up for yourself and your family.

Sometimes well meaning or maybe not so well meaning remarks are made.

A grandparent might say “Jimmy is ungrateful, he doesn’t even care that I’m here. He just ignores me.”

Jimmy  may really love having grandma come over to visit but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s sitting next to grandma hanging onto her every word. Sometimes grandma feels slighted when there is really no reason to.

Respect for elders is important but so is respect for children young adults and the middle aged.

If you’re doing all you can to see that your children treat others with respect and you do so yourself don’t let others push you or your children around. When in the presence of difficult relatives stay calm while holding your ground.

Here’s more information you may find helpful:

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Escaping is Difficult

Thursday, November 10th, 2011

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Thinking

Monday, November 22nd, 2010

Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one’s thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world.   Johann Wolfgang von Goethe