Posts Tagged ‘counterproductive’

To Force Forgiveness

Monday, May 1st, 2017

No ContactOne thing I know for sure is that it is impossible to force another person who has caused me hurt and pain to ask for my forgiveness.

Why would I want to do that anyway?

There would be no point to the forgiveness because it wouldn’t be sincere.

Forgiveness is not always timely and doesn’t happen in a straight line. If it happens at all, it often happens out of the blue when the deed done is something we’ve moved past.

If we try to get another person to see their wrongdoing it is completely counterproductive as we can not make anyone see anything. They must see it for themselves.

We are not here to be judge and jury. We live our lives and own our lives by taking responsibility for the things we do and say to others. As long we live like this we can go to bed at night and sleep soundly.

If you have lived with abuse you know what I’m talking about.

There is no way to force an apology.

You can learn to accept yourself and nurture you in the face of abuse. Not by putting up with the abuse but by standing up to the abuse in the safest way you possibly can.

More to Come…


Sunday, October 23rd, 2016

Rushing around is counterproductive.

If you find yourself frantically trying to meet a deadline or finish everything on your to do list figure that you are better off stopping rather than finishing.

You don’t have to finish immediately.

Outside of an emergency situation whatever you didn’t get done can get done later and by waiting you may even put yourself in a better mindset to continue on at a later time. Take a breather and calm down.

Rushing can cause you far more stress than it is worth.

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