Posts Tagged ‘counseling’

When You Feel You Can’t Take it Anymore…

Wednesday, November 9th, 2011

Anxiety and stress definitely can take a toll on us.

We can get to a point where we feel we absolutely CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE and as long as we’ve got a plan we don’t have to.

But what if you don’t have a plan and you truly can’t take it anymore?

You’ve got to put a plan in place so you know where you’re aiming–you’ve got a target.

Say you can’t take your job any more. More than anything you want to walk through the door and announce to the boss and anyone else within earshot–I QUIT!

Well, hold on.

Take steps to create an action plan so  you can say I quit without shouting  because you know what your next step will be.

Do some research.

Make phone calls, set up informational interviews, get a job coach, seek counseling. Go to your local state employment office where there are resources to help you. Go to your local community college and speak with an adviser. Taking one simple action will lead you to another–don’t panic, set a pace.

If it’s a relationship–

Seek help and guidance

Don’t go it alone

If you’re in danger–call a local shelter, social service agency, the police if needed or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE

Make life work for you by taking reasonable action steps. No job, relationship,  living situation, or other circumstance is worth sticking with if you’re miserable and/or not safe.

Take actions that will work for you given your own unique set of circumstances.

 

Time & Focus to Make the Decision to Leave

Monday, July 26th, 2010

There are a couple of  reasons people might stay in destructive relationships.

One being time and the other being focus.

You might think you want out but don’t have time to focus on the decision.

When are you going to take the time? It will take a concerted effort to leave and with each day full of routines and challenges that need to be attended to it’s sometimes hard to fully focus on your decision.

Another possible hurdle is if your partner senses you are having serious doubts about continuing and suddenly becomes more in tune with you and the relationship. You might think, how can I possibly leave now? You decide to stay to see if there is hope for the future.  You hope for the opportunity to move toward a working relationship and in some cases  things work out.

Other times the hope dies and you’re back where you were before the new hope cycle emerged. How many more hopeful cycles will you enjoy? How many more down cycles will you endure?

Eventually you may see the hopeful cycles shorter and the down cycles longer. That may be a signal that if you continue to ride this up and down roller coaster your physical mental and emotional well being will be seriously  affected and  in order to create a healthy life for yourself will need to focus on leaving for good.

If you need time in order to focus:

  1. Decide if you’re ready.
  2. Talk your decision over with someone you trust.
  3. Take the time you need to feel confident about your decision.
  4. Seek counseling if it will help you decide what to do.

The time you take is an investment in your future.