Posts Tagged ‘co workers’

Walking a Tightrope

Wednesday, November 25th, 2015

The relationships we have in our workplace are part of the employment package and relating to our employer and co-workers can be a lot like walking a tightrope. These are relationships we most likely wouldn’t likely have if it weren’t for our job.

Our co-workers may be good at what they do and we may respect that about them but they may also be annoying or manipulative, underhanded, schemers or in some other way nearly impossible to relate to in a normal way.

If we’re too nice we get squashed. If we don’t recognize their achievements we get the cold shoulder. If we don’t go along with their humor we’re made to feel as if we have no sense of humor.

We’re damned if we do and we’re damned if we don’t.

At 3am you don’t want to be restless and wide awake because you are thinking about who is going to say what to you or what you’re going to have to put up with once you walk through that door…

So what do you do to continue working  and still meet your own needs? The best course of action might be to envision yourself walking your own personal tightrope.

Imagine your on that tightrope.

Watch your balance once you first walk through the door. Stay steady until you take that last step out the door at the end of the day.

Each day you get on the tightrope be gentle with your take off and with your last step onto the safety pad once you’re out the door. Be deliberate with the steps you take in between. The last thing you want to do is fall off the rope during the course of the day as falling off is a pain since you’ve got to work your way back up  the rope. Enough falls and you could very well be out of a job

If you’ve maintained your balance you can take a Deep Sigh of Relief.

Do your best to go about your business and show your employer and co-workers the same respect you want them to show you. Maintain a sense of calm so you can sleep at night as your sleep is the best you can give yourself when it comes to dealing with a difficult workplace environment.

Know that you’re not the only one walking the tightrope. Millions do it every day.

Good balance be with you.

Note: Be aware that there is a difference between difficult co-workers and outright abuse. Nip an abusive situation in the bud.

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Too Much Work Can Cost You

Monday, April 2nd, 2012

Life revolves around work and money.

Not that money and work isn’t important.  Money of course is our primary means of exchange for goods and services. Work is how we get the money.

However earning a living is a small part of life and over the last few years this realization has really hit home for me.

Recently I had the opportunity to learn from a wise client who has paid a heavy price. So much of what I know I learn from the clients I serve–people who are seriously ill, disabled or elderly. For the past nine years they have been my teachers.

I met with this client in her home. She told me how much she used to love to work. In fact she loved working so much she often took on more than her share.

She was in an investigative field and there were many cases she worked on that required travel out of the area. At the time she held her job she was single and many of her co-workers had young families. When an assignment came up that was out of the area and a co-worker had a family obligation my client would regularly volunteer to take on these assignments.

Although she enjoyed the work and didn’t mind doing the extra traveling she grew tired. Over time the long and extended hours took a toll on her.

She told me how she pushed herself to keep going and going and going until one day her body simply stopped. That morning it took everything she had to get out of bed. She made it into work but her co-workers noticed something was different. They told her she didn’t look well and should go home.

Managers also noticed and told her she was going home.

So she did and shortly afterward she had her first stroke. That was over twenty years ago and she hasn’t been back to work since.

She talked about how over the years it has been so painful to see other people go to work. She often looked out her window watching them leave to go to their jobs. She wanted so much to do the same but couldn’t.

She gave me the analogy of a broken mirror. How you can take the broken pieces and put them back together but no matter how hard you try the mirror will never be the same.

She said it’s the same with people. Once a piece of us breaks we can try to get back to the way we used to be but often the damage is irreparable and we’ll never get back to where we were.

She said it doesn’t matter what type of work a person does if they push too hard and pile too much on it will take them down one way or another.

We can love our work and the money it provides for us but our work and the money we receive is not our whole life.

Our health is precious.

So the lesson I learned from my teacher was do good work and enjoy it but know when to turn out the light and call it a day.

The extra $$ isn’t worth it.

Life is out there and meant to be lived.

We only get one life and one body.

Treat it right.

 

Thinking In a New Year

Sunday, January 1st, 2012

Now comes the resolutions to make:

good decisions

healthier eating choices

lose weight

and the list goes on…

What about the resolution to be kinder to you? Sometimes we concentrate very hard on what we need to do to meet the needs of others and view our own needs as a distant second.

Our needs are important. Without meeting them we will not effectively meet the challenges before us in terms of family friends work and community.

Take time for you.

Eat well, get the rest you need, and reflect.

Life is busy and at times confusing. Choices and opportunities are presented to us on a daily basis. It is up to us to pay attention to what is put in front of us and the only way we will do that is if we pay attention to what we think.

Sometimes we push our thoughts down to a level where we barely recognize them as our own. They become jumbled up with thoughts of friends, family, co-workers, employers and others.

Differentiate between what you think and what others think. Examine and reflect.

Above all don’t discount how you feel and what you think throughout your daily life.

How You Treat Others

Thursday, December 15th, 2011

Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people – your family, your friends, and co-workers, and even strangers you meet along the way.    — Barbara Bush

Workplace Spoilers

Friday, September 24th, 2010

As I was driving home the other night I realized I’m lucky because my working life is relatively free of discord. Sure there are occasional misunderstandings or confusion about something said or done but overall I feel pretty good about my workplace and co-workers.

It hasn’t always been this way. I can remember one time when I started a new job and wasn’t well received. I wasn’t sure why but there were glances in my direction when I walked by and low level conversations that ended when I walked in the room. I kept thinking, “Am I going to make it here??” My first weeks in that job were definitely not pleasant. At times I felt like throwing a bag over my head or just giving up and finding my way to the nearest exit.

Before I started that job I had applied for a life insurance policy. One evening shortly after my hiring, a company sales rep. came to my home to meet with me. He had me stand on a scale. I was shocked by what I saw. I asked him if his scale was set right. He checked it out by looking at the setting then by weighing himself and assured me it was fine. I suppose under other circumstances looking at the scale would have been great news, but not this time. I had lost ten pounds and until I stepped on that scale was clueless that my weight had dropped. When I stopped to think about it I realized I hadn’t had much of an appetite since starting the job most likely because I was too nervous to eat. I’d been so caught up in trying to do well at work while struggling to gain acceptance at the same time, that I hadn’t realized how much I was letting it affect me. My weight drop was a wake-up call. I knew I had to change the way I was dealing with my new workplace or I was going to be in big trouble. (more…)